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She had the TAVR and unplanned pacemaker on the 9th. Home late afternoon the 10th. Things went well with various friends, her aide, home health checks. I stayed several nights but had days free. We planned her to be alone after this weekend. Her mobility was its usual level, except for the arm use restriction. And then….She got a fever 101.7 on Friday, throughout the day. I was not informed until 5 pm.
Home PT was doing intake and paged the dr. He never replied. Their nurse on call weighed in and said she needed eval. So I took her back to big city hospital where it was done. By the time we arrived the temp was down and had stayed down. But she’s still there, they have run all the tests and so far good. They are awaiting blood culture results. Not sure if she’ll be discharged today or not. PT has been in her room so I’m glad someone has eyes on that.
Home PT was ok w her mobility but that was before she’d been readmitted.
Going up today, after a miserable night on one of those “sleeping “ recliners and a day at bedside. I’m on the fence as to whether I want her home or back at rehab. If she can get around like was was I can deal with home.
Ive remained hyper vigilant about watching for delirium due to my experience with my mother. So far so good.

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I would push for in patient PT if she can qualify. The PT will be more consistent and more of it. At age 89 my mom had a pacemaker after sudden heart block and it really took a long time for her to recover. She was fully mobile but just unmotivated to go back to doing anything that took effort for at least two months. I had to run over there daily and eventually get extra help with laundry and cleaning. I WISH she could have qualified for in patient rehab because that is what she needed to regain her strength. It will also give you time to set up home health care for her return.
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I understand. I suppose the situation has not yet reached my threshold, which is no permanent 24/7 caregiving by me. I’m willing to be a temporary bridge, and so far she has a lot more help and resources than my mother did. If this ends up looking like she can’t be at home with appropriate levels of paid help, that’s a problem for me. But she has LTC insurance, and money to pay for at least some level of aides. She also assigned two other POAs, and they seem to respect my time. She’s closer to the one, and I believe if other POA/friend also said it was time for a facility she’d listen. It’s still an evolving situation.
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It sounds like you've talked yourself into once again being a caregiver for your grandma, despite many of us telling you to step away for your own physical and mental well-being, so I'm not sure there's not much else I or anyone else on here can tell you, other than to remind you that you matter too in this situation.
Please don't forget that.
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