Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
the best horse won on a wet track, going wire to wire - led the whole race
but the 2nd place finisher raised an objection
going into the final turn, when 150,000 people are screaming, the winner came out of his lane and was ruled to have impeded another horse but not the 2nd place finisher - after 20 minutes, the stewards disqualified the winner
unusual decision in the 145 history of the derby but it was a difficult spotlight to be in especially after this particular winter of racing
I turned on the radio this morning to tune into the Sunday service and all they were talking about was the Kentucky Derby.
fav jockey doesn't have a pony in the race
It was the crazy behavior of the receptionist that put me off.
So glad my taxes are already filed!
Done deal.
As for the questions, the person you spoke to was perhaps just being nosy, or maybe trying to be extra sure he/she understood your situation correctly. I don't think I'd have asked either of those questions, but I will note that both spouses are generally required to be present for a joint return, so if your spouse wasn't there the person may have been trying to figure out a work-around. We have occasionally gone to people's homes to get the second signature if the absent spouse was homebound, for example. (We're not supposed to, but it happens).
Hope you have a much better experience next year!
Thank you so much for the information. And I will make an early appointment in 2020 fof 2019 taxes.
An early appointment with VITA would have solved many problems.
I did go to the senior center last year and at the last minute, did not have enough documentation.
I think Vita is a good and useful service. At the reception desk, I was asked things that I do not think were necessary to fill out our taxes.
Such as: What is you husband's disability, what is wrong with him?
Why is your name first on the tax form?
I was told to come back with t h e added papers needed. (The SS 1099 is not filed with the tax return) (but I guess I had to prove to them we received SS).
I went home, filled out what info I knew, and the IRS completed filling in the totals.
But than k s, I do think last year I was following your advice about VITA.
Also there is free tax prep software that can be used by people whose income is not too large (I don't recall the income ceiling, but I used it for my own, my mother's, and my brother-in-law's taxes). The program I used is called myfreetaxes.com, and I think there are others as well. No need to deal with paper forms and wondering if you're doing it correctly - they walk you through step by step. To an annoying extent for people like me who pretty much know what to do and just want to cut to the chase, but I think it's reassuring for people who don't have formal training. Nobody should have to stress over the paperwork like some seem to be doing. FWIW.
"Come what come may, time and the hour run through the roughest day." Deep breaths to her.
Hope it works out for Bil.
So caring of you to try and figure things out for your family.
It depends on whether you will be there, or watching the children at home.
You can call in, ask for your sister, say there is a need for her to come home.
She leaves, saying to Mil, "it is so good that you are here, I will be back, thank you so much!".
Sisters do that....little white lies to protect them.
She can return at anytime, does not need to explain any delays.
Will that work?
When DH had open heart surgery years ago, I told my BIL that he had one job, and that was to keep his lunatic mother away from my husband ( this was mostly because she had pneumonia at the time and catching a cold would have killed DH--if you cough after having your chest cracked, you're in big trouble). But I wouldn't have been able to abide having her there in any event.
One of my brothers and my eldest daughter showed up to wait through surgery with me. They distracted me, ordered in food, told me to go for walks and were a great boon to have around.
It might be no bad thing if sister tells them in advance that she is not planning to sit outside the operating theatre wringing her hands for five hours and she doesn't think they should either. Who on earth is it going to help?
I should just make sure Sister doesn't feel obliged to sit it out with them. She should set them a good example and take breaks as planned.
BIL is scheduled for surgery on Monday. Given that the operation is expected to be over 5 hours plus all the pre surgery prep Sis wasn't sure how to spend her day, was even considering leaving the hospital and returning later. Then she got a call from her MIL that she plans to be there and will be accompanied by other members of the family. OK, it's her son after all, but this woman is in her 80's and it will be a long, long day. Is there any way to discourage this without coming across as a cold and callous 3itch?
My jeans are in the wash today, so I will wear the workout pants today.
The weather will be in the mid-seventies.
How ya doin'??
The middle area is so hard to get rid of isn't it? I do my crunches and try to make it down to the workout room to use the treadmill but I have a hard time being consistent with that and then my diet could really use some revamping as well.