Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
I know this topic has been covered before but I'd really like to call out the advertising giants who think it's okay to portray aging care facilities in such a ridiculous way. I watched one today. The place is called Shannon Oakes. Old people dressed in their best, playing cards, getting served in a white tablecloth dining room being served by waiters dressed in their best tuxedo like clothes serving shrimp and all the finest cuisine. Not a trace of drool or feces anywhere to be seen.
I watched this and immediately felt guilt at where we placed my Mom. What must old folk think when they watch these commercials and end up where they end up. I know I did the best I could for Mom but I've often wondered if she felt that she should have been somewhere better. They must stop with these commercials......all they do is make caregivers who can't afford all the trimmings feel bad and guilty and place unrealistic expectations in their loved ones.
There, rant over.
Was it a sad or uplifting movie?
I cannot watch it yet on Roku. But want to know if any caregivers here sold the rights to their story. Hmmmmn.
Maybe for me, I should be watching The Never Ending Story.
I don't want to give anything away if someone else wants to watch it so I'll leave it at that.
Not sure how I feel about it - basic premise was a single woman trying to find work after caring for her elderly mom
Where's Kyra?
Alas, no more Vikings left as Sweden fell to England
then they said the total was like 10$....I cant remember but I questioned her.
the Famous Star meal is xx$ ?? she said yes.
being in line. I just paid, got my food and went home.
once home, I opened our burgers. to find cheese and DOUBLE meat patties.
just in my opinion I find double meat in a burger gross. no wonder she charged me so much. I didn't ask for a double stack burger w cheese.
but yeah I agree businesses seem to scale back on product. even packaged foods on the pictures/label don't look like that when you open them.
{chuckling}
I totally understand what you mean. When I first beame major caregiver to my honey I looked more than 10 years younger than I was. In the last 13 years have aged alot and I noticed looking in the mirror that in the last 9 months I have aged even faster. Where my skin was relatively smooth I now have deep wrinkles and big dark circles under my eyes. My hair which about a year ago was 50/50 silver is now about 80/20. I cut my hair short a number of years ago (after having waist long hair) and love it, but am considering growing it out again.
Bookluvr...I realize I am almost 67, but when I look in the mirror I no longer see a vibrant woman. Just someone who is tired. And what I am going to say stands to the fact that I am better at giving advice than taking it. I have always heard that we are way harder on ourselves than others are and we see ourselves differently so don't be too hard on yourself. I made the decision not to recolor my hair quite awhile back though a recruiter told me I needed to cover my silver (and I didn't have as much as I have now). I love the silver in my hair. I no longer take offense either when younsters want to help. In fact guess I am kind of spoiled but I welcome it as it sure saves on my back. Hold your head up proudly and say thanks...you are not getting old...just aging gracefully. (or this is the way I look at it)
GardenArtist, I have a tendency to do the same thing. Mine is from when I used to work security and security patrol. I used to have to chuckle as at the time I weighed 98lbs, stood 4'10 3/4" and had to escort men that were over 6' tall to their vehicles. Had a couple tell me they didn't live that down with their friends and co-workers. I still to this day hold open doors for people.
For the record, my honey hates the silver in my hair but I tell him there are a lot of women that go out and pay big bucks to get the look I naturally have. Ha, ha, ha
GardenA - I do that, too! With opening the door. A few men have refused to go through the 2nd door first. They insist on holding the door for me to enter first. Then when I try to give them the line in front of me, one person accepted. The others still refused. Insisted I get in line in front of them. =)
I stuck it in the gum by the check out when she wasn't looking.
my moms funny she just desperate to spend some money. (she oughta see her AL bill)
but when we return to assisted living. she always says DID I BUY ANYTHING?
I like it though when a man offers to open the door b/c I then immediately hold open the next door for him. I began doing that when I worked on the women's lib campaigns back in the 70's. Men deserve to be pampered with doors held open just as women do.
Now no one challenges me to see if I can use a senior discount :P
I aged so much even I don't recognize myself anymore.
My sig other would go to McDonald's to get "senior coffee" because it was free. Then he would stuff his pockets with creamers. Then he would drive off in his 22 year old Jeep where the paint is peeling off on the roof, and he looked like he dressed from the hamper. Surely the counter people must think he is all alone with only a few pennies. I've tried to tell him to stop with taking so much cream. He can afford cream. Heck, he can afford the cow :P
Anyway, my balance is getting worse. Today, leaving work and quickly walking down the stairs (3 flights with terrible ventilation), I suddenly felt my body falling to the left and the stairwall tilting, I quickly grabbed the railing to stop my fall... When I got home, I asked nephew if he can build a railing on our front porch stairs because of my vertigo. I already fell. And showed him my lower face, scraped knee. I went in to get my purse to go buy window screens with him. (He's going to replace all the 25-year old screens of the house.) As I was walking up the stairs, I reached the top (3 steps only). And my body started to sway. Teacher niece was walking to me. Her eyes widened as I stood there swaying. Once I was steady, I rushed down the stairs and told her that we're going to put a railing (somehow) so that I won't fall again.
Home Depot doesn't have any ready-made and just put together railings. So, nephew said he will try to use plumber pipes (PVC?) and just attach it together. I told him that it's okay to just put it one side of the stairs. I will just make sure to walk up/down near his PVC railing.
No security camera footage of those mannequins ?🙈
Husband and I slept in a twin bed for five years when we first got married (we were much thinner then). One day we were wrestling around on top of it and both fell off and broke his glasses.... toned us down a bit.
That is because my tongue was in my cheek, and I was laughing, ouch. But thanks anyway.
Has anyone, really now, actually e n j o y e d receiving ALL the mail from AARP?
Or how about AAA (auto club, not AA.) OR, how about publisher's Clearinghouse?
OR, Neptune Society, really folks.
Many years ago, when I turned 55 (actually AARP hits you up for membership at age 50),
I disenrolled from AARP, unsubscribed from AAA, and now, not even a peep out of
Publisher's Clearinghouse because they cannot find me. It helps to never buy from catalogs like Carol Wrights gifts, etc.
Either I will finally be understood when I am joking around on the brat thread, or NO ONE will ever take me serious on the other threads.
Uh oh. Maybe they all think I am too too old now for a life insurance offer in the mail?
Then once I stuck a sock into a male mannequin's underwear, then we hid around the corner and laughed at people's faces when they saw it. I guess you can picture what it looked like. An excited male mannequin shall we say.
Yes, I am quite immature..............yep, yep yep.