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I'm sure many of you with a parent or other loved ones in a facility may have experienced other people looking down on you because of the decision you made. Well just hold on... I say this because they will more than likely be in the same situation. For example, there is a person that I know who I'm basically sure talked about me and etc. Well.. guess where her parents are now?? But everyone thinks it was a good move for her because she works and etc but I work and etc also. The point is to try not to let it bother you when people speak on things that are none of their business because sometimes, they will be in the same situation.

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@waytomisery,
Lol. Your sister in law reminds me of my daughter in law, who needs to be the center of attention, and will do crazy stunts to draw attention to herself when anyone else is getting "their day".
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I'm not one to be concerned about what others think of me.
You made the best decision you could. It is somewhat enlightening to hear your perspective on others who will one day find themselves in this situation.

People who talk negatively about others are insecure with themselves. Judging others for a situation we don't understand, we may well find ourselves facing the same difficult decisions one day.

I have received judgement from family and some friends for the opposite: choosing to take care of my bed-ridden husband at home. I have had inconsiderate people say; "Why don't you just put him in a nursing home and get on with your life?"
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This is so real. The people quickest to judge caregiving decisions are almost always the ones who haven't faced them yet. You made the best decision you could with the information, resources, and circumstances you had. That's all any of us can do. Hold your head up. 💙
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Or those who say that your parents took care of you when you were a child, yada, yada, yada, therefore you should return the care. I remember back when someone said that, I quickly said "that's true, but my parents weren't 65 when I was born".
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@waytomisery.. Some people really amaze me!
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My sister in law gave me grief about placing my mother in AL, ( she had dementia ) while I was still working.
About a year later this same ( retired) sister in law placed her own mother ( also with dementia ) in AL.

My mother died first. Sister in law brought her mother to my mother’s funeral as “ show and tell “ to show us what she was dealing with . By then the poor woman was in her 90’s in memory care . She was so confused that day . She recognized no one besides her daughter and kept asking to go home.

It takes all kinds . 🙄🙄🙄
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@SnoopyLove! I agree!
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So true! Funny how life works sometimes. 🧐
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