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JB, thank you for respecting the paid caregivers rights too... but like I said.... if your caregiver is told there is a camera in place and doesn't flinch, you are good to go... it will help to see who is a good fit for your mom.... I would respect a person for keeping an eye on their loved one and who ever is taking care of them..... that would earn you some instant respect from me..... because that would be a good thing in case of an accident, the caregiver has proof also of what happened..... its the not being told I would have a problem with....
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The camera will not be hidden. It has to sit in an open area to capture a 3 dimensional area. Okay. I will inform the caretaker of the camera and explain why it's there. Not as if I'm going to get a few hours away from here and stayed glued to my phone watching!! LOL that just wouldn't make sense!
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Hmmm.....I tend to be an overly trusting person, heck, I let everyone in. This camera is also for those times I need to make a quick dash to the store and can't take mom. I can see what she's doing...maybe even take the dogs for a walk and keep an eye on her. Also it has a motion detector on it and will alert me if she's wandering around at night.

Now I'm rethinking it. We don't have a lot of valuables in the house but what I have I'd like to keep...and most def want to make sure no one is abusing mom in any form. Thank you ladeeM. I totally get the other side of it as well. Hmmmm...
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Kazzaa , take a deep breath... I said 'secretly' being taped.... I have been a private caregiver for 17 years..... if a person TOLD me there was a camera, I would only think this person has their parents best interest at heart and not take it personal.... and apparently I am a good caregiver or I wouldn't be working... but being TOLD would also weed out those that weren't fit for the job to begin with....
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ladee i was a nanny there could have been a hundred cameras around? i looked after them kids like they were my own so even if i found out why would it bother me if you are doing a good job and looking after someone properly it shouldnt be a problem i know i would do the same ive seen some serious sh*t with nannies and i would have a camera up their a** if it were my kids!!
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JB, while I understand your need to keep an eye on mom and a caregiver, as a paid caregiver myself, I would hit the ceiling if I found out I was being 'secretly' taped.....I would not stay at job that the person did not trust me..... tho, like I said, I do understand.
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I know JB but there are some stupid laws here! We were thinking of getting one for here to keep an eye on mum if she was on her own? maybe a good idea? I have idea where mums at shes very quiet lately i dont know to be happy or worried? she just sits in front of tv all day long still have a great appetite so i guess eating is a big sign that shes ok i think?
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What's the point of having surveillance if I have to tell them I'm watching? Uhm...no! This one even has a microphone so I can hear as well.

Mom turned 79 in May. Diagnosed 6 years ago with AD. Stage 6. She's becoming very feeble as well. Almost depends time.Yes it drives me nuts but she can't help it. Least I think she can't, at times I think she does it on purpose!!

Her eyesight is great but her perception is shot to h*ll.
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Oh JB that would drive you mad! your mum must be pretty advanced stage? how old is she?
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i picked up a little bit of the german language over a three year soldiering stint there . ein beir bitte !! i didnt bother learning any more of their jibberish ..
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Oh JB a Spy!!! but youre right although here i think you have to inform them?
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That and mom keeps asking me where she can sit down at? OMG!! I must say "right there" a thousand times a day. Where? Right there. Right there? Yes, right there? You mean that chair? Yes mom, RIGHT THERE!!!! OMG! this is non freaking stop all day and through the night. RIGHT THERE!!!!!!
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Grrrr!!!! I am trying to setup an "in home" surveillance camera so I can see what's going on when I finally do hire a sub care taker for a few hours ... I am so behind in technology !!!!
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See learn something new!!
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kaz, it means "one more beer, please". But adding grande certainly wouldn't hurt....
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I know thats a beer MAS i presume is small? as i know grande is big!!
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kaz, "uno cerveza mas, por favor" is also helpful.
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Ive decided to learn spanish teaching myself until i can afford classes ive been at it all afternoon and all ive learnt is "necessito chocolate" I need chocolate!!! ill get far!
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mums here eating brocolli with her hands? I feel like slapping her hands with my hand like she used to do when we were toddlers! do you remember getting a slap on the hands when you touched your food with hands? it hurt like h*ll cause mum had BIG rings on her fingers and the rings seemed to turn and youd get hit with a big diamond!! TUT TUT! so gross but shes enjoyed her dinner! was organised today managed to give her dinner before there was a Low Blood tantrum!! See this job is easy peesy lemon squeezy you just gotta be organised!!!!!!!!! LOL
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I've often wondered how a person with dementia can seemingly forget where the bathroom is but know how to spin fabulous stories of the care givers supposed wrong doings? Boy oh boy can the spin some good ones too!!

The cops/paramedics and neighbors ALL know us very well. Embarrassing? Yes. My fault? No. Doesn't matter whose fault it is, it's still unnerving being known for the crazies that goes on in this house. Some days I just shake my head and hide in the back yard...

If a stranger knocked on the door, they'd better watch out cuz I might just let them in and escape out the back door!!!

Jesse....I like the idea of a sign on the front door. Yeah, be careful all who enter!!!
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I just dont get people apparently someone called to this ladys house after 11pm and asked to use the toilet? she let him in and he pushed her to the ground and robbed her house? WHY did she let him? in her response................ he had a BMW parked outside I thought he was genuine????? oh dear! I mean who lets a stranger in let alone even answer the door? sometimes people are silly and just dont think! I had someone call here a few months ago after 10pm I turned on all the outside lights and called the cops yep aint taking chances!
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HA! V never thought of that if mum can remember 911 shes playing you for a fool! i know my mum genuinely wouldnt know the emergency number even though its all over the house? AHA they are clever old boots sometimes! poor daughter52 even though you know its not true and shes doing her best it still hurts gosh even to be acused of some sort of abuse is very scary like when mums nurse rang her doc and said she was conerned about the atmosphere in the house here I sh*t a brick that you can so easily be accused of something thats not true!
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PS Kaz we get regular call from telemarkets telling us that there have been a number of serious breakins in our area and we should buy their security system. I do wonder how they know about the breakin when no one else does.
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Well V the house is pretty secure as you cant get in the windows as they are quite small BUT my biggest concern is the window on the garage roof beside my bedroom i may get some bars there will ask brother to fix this! Yeh i dont feel safe here with just mum and me where is a man when you need one!! its a quiet estate the nearest house is only 6ft away but i dont think theyd hear much if anything did happen! I have put salt and holy water all around the perimeter of the house for protection dont knock it so far so good? also my friend blessed the house last year yeh when all else fails i pray to Arch angel michael to protect us!
I have a crow bar pretty lethal would i use it who knows people will do anything to protect themselves i guess? yeh crime is getting bad here its not long ago that you could leave your doors open here? I was a basket case after the break in we had a few years ago and was a nervous wreck! im alot better after PSTD therapy im tougher and probably would fight to protect my mum and my cat! Yeh maybe god help the burglar who confronts an already stressed out carer "make my day mfcker". HA!
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daughter 52 don't feel bad.
Mom knows she needs Insulin.Has not had dinner and you have been missing all day. What a wonderful memory that old lady has. She can even remember the number for 911.
When she gets to assisted living she will have not trouble taking care of herself. Perhaps you could have a Tuesday night gathering at your house instead.
Just keep the noise down till she is asleep. poor you. I really do sympathize.
My husband has started checking on me and wants to know where I am going, when I will be back and what I am doing in the house. he will even see me to the car and advise me to turn on the lights (They are automatic)
I don't check on him and he does disappear for extended periods. he does turn up for food on a regular basis - so i postpone sending out search parties. Oh I forgot he has On Star in his car. Isn't it h*ll getting old and senile. getting on for time for my nap
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My Mom who cannot walk without a walker and barely a few steps then, was able to walk to the door, open it and go outside almost naked, down the steps, and thru the yard by herself in the middle of the winter. That is when I brought her to my house to live with the doors bolted. Amazing the strength that these older folks can muster up when they want to. PS: She has not tried it again since she is living with me.
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Kaz have Mum pull a heavy couch in front of the door every night. Problem solved!!!!
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my whine is as if life wasnt bad enough we recieved a residents warning there have been a few break-ins here and weve been warned to be vigilent i wont sleep now as im still not over the break in 3yrs ago it all comes back to haunt you! I will be sleeping with one eye open now thanks more stress to my already stressful life! Ever just want to stay under the duvet and stay there until its all over?
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daughter52 YIKES! my biggest fear is that mum pulls a stunt like this? i think that will be it for me! Gosh how awful i guess you just cant go out and enjoy yourself in peace and i know that little voice like when mum burned the butter dish last week someone was telling me not to go out until shes eaten? I do having done this job believe in a higher power i havnt worked out what his plan for me is yet but im waiting and waiting and waiting...........
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I am seriously considering a shingle to hang on the front door. "Abandon all hope ye who enter here." Dante understood.
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