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JB nails? hair? are you kidding me? no offence to "big" women but the carer that comes in here cant even get off the chair shes so big so hows she gonna get an old lady in and out of a bath she must weigh at least 400lbs? and shes a lazy cow sat down and told us about her great holiday? CARER? nobody wants to work anymore! I mean how can someone that big take care of a frail old lady?
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i have recurring customers and sons and grandkids . cool projects , solid plans and an eye to the future . i think " clinging " is the wrong word ash . i think good priorities and sacrificing for these elders has been my mindset . i wont be deluded by furry critters with a 5 wire thought process . eat , s*it , whine , jealousy , and the smartest ones -- some petty manipulation . im on track ash , thank you .
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Jessie, it beats watching Swamp People, and animals being killed, and war shows.... I am coming out of my skin by the time MrM goes to bed.....kill, kill, kill, gets sooooo old....
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I got a small gripe today. I am so tired of The Waltons. My mother watches it half the day and into evening. I used to like The Waltons. Do you think our parents make friends with the TV characters so it's like having company?
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Cap I'd considered buying a small house to rent off for income but the hassle isn't worth it. You seem to loathe animals and that's your right (karma will get you!) but you have to understand it's never the animal's fault, just stupid loser owners.

You clung to your mother until she passed. Now you cling onto Edna and when she dies you have nothing left but family, who seem, through your posts, to be major flakey and people you want nothing to do with.

Cap relax and look at the past few years and where you are going in ll this. We care about you ... goddam, someone cares! lol
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edna loved her 5 x 7 pic . i slapped it in a nice goodwill store frame and it looks old tim-ey .. i went to refresh her ice water and came back to see her clutching it to her chest . it doesnt take much to please a dementia patient with one bushel basket full of earthly possessions .. shes been keeping a worthless metal trinket coin inside her ice water sippy cup . so far its just mine and hers secret ..
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Kaz, caregiver's here do light housekeeping. Dishes, vacuum, laundry... yada yada. Mom was given 5 hours a week of CNA caregiving! YAY!!!!!!!! did I say YAYYYYY!!!!??? I'm already plotting like a mad woman of what I will do with those 5 whole hours!!! First though, I have to go through the Oregon Registry of Caregiver's and interview. Small price to pay for 5 HOURS A WEEK! All I want this person to do is dote on mom. Nails, hair, exercises, activities, clean her room, her bathroom, wash her clothes.. but all this HAS to be done with mom helping :))))) Also, I can add additional hours at a reduced rate. YAY!!!! Only took the state a year to get this going....whew....worth the wait fer sher!!

Happy trails indeed!!!
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na na na na
happy trails to you, hope we never meet again.
cubehead and his #or , just might be movin in .
this place was built for kids , even before their birth,
cap was planning ahead to heaven here on earth .
bluntman will be back in time , he dont even need to knock .
he already knows the deal , he'll need some concrete block .....

sigh

15 - 20 yrs foresight is agonizing ..
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my renter hasnt paid her rent on the 1st for the first time ever . probably planning to use their money to move out with . it doesnt matter to me . i enjoy the financial break so i can use my income for other things but ive never been cut out for the landlord tenant arrangement . im hard on myself and short on patience with thoughtlessness from others -- like stomping thru the house like a horse from dawn to dusk . i think i could fk fish and come up with 175.00 bucks a month mortgage , so happy trails i guess ..
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Great day NOT! mum got up asked carer to wash kitchen floor? carer refused try telling mum that carers are not cleaners she wont listen? they come to cook her lunch OR her personal care mum wont let them do either? i then had to listen to mum bitch and moan so i decided to go into town to get away from her met an old friend who has just finally left her a**hole husband? well big mistake this guy was beating her shes left him and she wanted nothing more than to bitch and moan about him for 4hours?? i told her to try and be positive she gets half a house her kids are grown and move on with your f..kin life no her negativity almost drove me to run in front of a car? I have no time for whinging over some asshole who was beating the crap out of you take the money and get over it!
Im now drained and wont be meeting her again for coffee then back home to more moaning mum wanted to know where id been all day? how much i spent? where i went? with who? which shops i went to? did i buy anything? did you buy coffee? you cant afford coffee!

Oh please god bring me some shiny happy people soon OR im looking at scoring me some crack cocaine!!!
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Well, the day has started better and our new CNA really washed Mama's hair so well.....everything is so clean and fresh now...I know that makes Mama feel so much better too. She has eaten a good meal and is resting...so I'm about to get myself going here. I ended up venting a LOT to the CNA but she told me that is another thing they are here for so vent away. I think I had gotten used to being able to talk to the other folks and I just have not felt open enough to new folks to be able to talk...today was the day...and it helped....
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I will check that one out too! I love those videos...wow..I think to myself what on earth would I do now without the age of the internet??? How on earth did caregivers do it then????
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Hope, did you see - again another company from CANADA - the West Jet Xmas video from last year? That was touching. And I envied them. And.. one man only asked for socks and underwear. Just Google: West Jet christmas gifts 2013.

I tend to keep the website links of funny videos. I was feeling a bit down today. So for the past 30 minutes, I've been replaying the dinosaur pranks from Japan, and the New York coffee shop prank (has to do with Carrie movie.) I was laughing so loud and hard. I kept waking up dad. He kept muttering for me to go sleep. It's now 12:15am. I feel a bit lighter now. Still have my headache. But, I think I will sleep better tonight. Night you all!
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Book..I had to google that as well, how awesome is that video...thanks for the smiles!!!
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No, they know how she is ...she doesn't laugh all the time, mostly when I am in pain. And we have been told, and I have also read, that one of the residual effects of a tramatic brain injury is this type of inappropriate laughter...I think it's also a by product of dementia in some folks....

I am trying to arrange to get ME some medical help....Mama has been covered pretty well. This morning we just have the CNA and then prayerfully the day will be free of intruders. Going to try to pull myself back together. I think the knowledge that my only "sitter" who could be here pretty much when needed is now a thing of the past. She will be unable to help for a long time..possibly never. She may never be able to drive again. If need be I will tell my brother I HAVE to have a day off and he can use vacation. I did let him know last night of the issues I am having with MY health and with Mama's additional issues and he told me let him know...so I will for sure....going to try to stop being wonder woman and admit I can't do it all........
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Cap, I noticed the new photo. I will need to look at it in my kindle. The photo is very tiny in my laptop. Whereas, I can enlarge it in the kindle.

I thought maybe you all might enjoy a little touching story to help balance out the bad or sad or frustrating day for you. I had a headache all day, got worse as the hours went by. To the point of squinting.

Anyway, I saw this video this morning in the news. I watched it and actually had tears in my eyes. Tears of happiness for the woman whose daughter has cancer.

Please google: bank automated thanking machine.

The Canadians did it again!!! Last xmas, one of their airlines did a great gifting for their passengers on that flight. I posted it here at that time. I was so filled with envy!
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i dont have a fuss this am . gonna stop by walgreen and get edna a 5 x 7 of me and the g kids . if she gets weak enough in the head to think im an illusion id like her to have some reassurance at hand . she questions all her memories as she knows her brain isnt working well ..
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Hope, that doesn't sound good. Get her checked out? The worst that can happen is nothing improves.

Right on cue: sound effects from mother's bathroom, I'm sitting two rooms away! Oh God I hope this isn't catching… Big hugs to you, get on the phone x
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if mom is lying there laughing at you she is clinically insane . that will break your head . its too much , ray charles could see that ..
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maybe your mom has reached the stage of three shifts of care . your trying to do something that requires multiple personal aids and a nurse on duty around the clock .
i cant direct traffic , and build an interstate bridge singlehandedly ..
aunt just went to nh . shes a fiesty , mind changing , spry little fall risk . she keeps em hopping and i mean 3 - 4 of them ..
dont kill yourself . we have human frailties and LIMITATIONS ..
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Thinking out loud...and continuing on about diarrhea....(I can't believe I am now spending my life online talking about diarrhea... wow) anywhoooo.....Mama has of recent, developed pitting edema....the past few days of continuous adjusting of the foot of the bed combined with the fat pillow under her legs has seemingly stopped the oozing of fluid from her legs, so I wonder if that is one of the contributors to the newest onset of her problem....just wondering if anyone else has had that issue with a loved one....
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and for some reason the fact that she lies there and laughs hysterically at me the entire time I am trying to clean her up just makes me go over the edge...God I hate it that I KNOW she can't help it...I KNOW this is not her...I KNOW all this and yet I catch myself actually feeling hatred deep inside my soul...and regret...the regret word is the one that keeps nagging at me....that I have given up my entire life and now my best years are behind me.....I hate it...and I hate myself for feeling this way...I feel like I am living in h*ll
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Dear God in Heaven how much can one human $hit in the same day....I am so freaking sick of cleaning up the massive mess every time I change her...it is never easy...but what on God's green earth is going on...... I am at my wit's end and every time I have to do it now I get more and more resentful.....I have lost my mind.
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im not one to whine , ill take action every time instead . ive emailed aps and told wendy that i understand why edna and i cant go for our truck rides . allegations of me having a cup of beer at IL ( gasp ) and a total of 12 beers in 6 days of staying with edna ( gasp ) . aps is charged with protecting the elder and erring on the side of safety . i told wendy its ok , i understand , and edna and i will make the best of what we have .
aps has a hard job that requires hard calls and i believe in good communication . i want them to know where my thought process is at .
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Oh, I totally understand! :)
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it took me 9 months to get the renter upstairs to comprehend that i wasnt going to coexist with her filthy , barking dogs . the day i snapped and put the dogs on the road i came down the hill , sat down in my bunker and a battery powered clock was ticking . i yanked the battery out of the sob . thats where my head is at ..
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I think I've done it so long now I am just numb to it...but it still is very tiring...especially when I am just about to finally sit down and put my feet up for a few minutes, then to have to immediately start all over again....

I agree about TV Captain, I think I have it on for the noise, but lately the noise is getting on my nerves...all the ridiculous, stupid programming they have now..and the fact they just keep creating more of the same thing means most folks are watching it...kind of scary to think we have that many folks out there who are so easily entertained....I live reality 24/7 why do I want to want to watch reality tv...I watch mostly the Discover Channel or Animal Planet...or the national network news...or turn it to the all music all the time channels....
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The telemarketers who start off "Seniors, blah, blah, blah, safety pendent, blah, blah, FREE, blah, blah, $2,000 in grocery coupons if you sign up today, blah, blah, press 1 to apply, blah, press 5 if you want us to contact your doctor saying you declined this offer.

I listen to the whole spiel because usually on these telemarketing ads at the end they will say "press 4 to be put on the 'do not call list'".

I am already on the do-not-call-list, been on there for years, recently updated the numbers. One day I got 3 of the very same identical spiel voice, but I can't lodge a complaint with the FCC because the caller ID's were from different numbers, or say they say.... [sigh]
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i cant watch tv , hope . my god even the weatherperson screams like theyre cracked out of their gourds . hype , hype , hype . its demeaning to anyone with a brain ..
havent had a tv in 8 yrs ..
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Hope, glad you have a sense if humor about all the (crap) I don't know if I could be cleaning up diarrhea from someone else. When my father was suck and dying I used to have to wipe his bottom after a movement and I would gag the whole time. If my mother ever starts doing what your mom does I don't know what I will do!
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