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cool story about the stranger on the cell phone kaz .
im learning some things right now about the importance of restful sleep in combatting stress . last night at sons house i felt physically and emotionally ill . it was the stress of events in the last few days , weeks , months , years , not the least of which was elder care and loss of my mom . my liver was enraged but i knew the hepc hadnt returned , there was no liver swelling , just agitation . son gave me two zans at bedtime , i laid down and the next time i blinked my eyes it was daylight and i felt like a newborn . i dont have a zan addiction ive just always used ( abused ) them to make my workday fun , focused and enjoyable . never thought of using them for sleep purposes and indeed would have considered that a waste . jeanne told me to fix my dumb a** a few weeks ago and i listened . its sleep and nutrition that i need even if it takes medication to get the sleep for now .. im just trying to tell you guys what a full 8 hours sleep did for me . ambien gives you 4 hours , its not enough . good sleep rebuilt me over night , never mind how i got there .
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I am beyond tapped out.
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Yes then i was talking to the waiter and he noticed i was drinking mint tea i told him the things i couldnt eat or drink and he went and gave me some FREE green tea AND hes an "insanity trainer" hes offered me 3 free sessions at his gym and says he can get me superfit in 3wks!!! I think his training maybe a bit too insane for me right now as im only getting back cycling after my accident! NO baby steps you have to have some level of fitness to start that kind of training BUT maybe later if my doc allows it? for now im only allowed yoga,cycling and walking a year after my accident i thought i was superwoman took the bike out went flying out to the beach feeling like i could fly..... collapsed and ended up calling an ambulance my whole body packed in HA! muscles didnt know what hit them!! my doc rang me and said "what the h*ll have you been doing?" yeh i learnt to take it easy after that!!
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My whine for the day... just got back from my parent's home for a short visit and to pick up their grocery list. Mentioned to my Dad about updating his Will, he said he wants to put in his Will that only the nieces and nephews who communicated with him and Mom throughout the year should get anything.... all well and good, and I understand where he is coming from.... but heavens sakes, Dad, how will the lawyer know when the Will is probated what nieces and nephews remembered your birthdays or send holiday cards, or called on the phone.... [sigh]
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kazzaa, wow talk about being in the right place at the right time. It will be nice to something else to look forward to each week :)
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I went shopping today then went for a coffee and a smoke! i was sitting there enjoying my peace when this woman came and sat next to me she took out her mobile and i could tell straight away from the conversation that she was on the phone to her mother and that her mother had dementia!!! she ended the phone call by never mind mum you cant hear me as youre not wearing your hearing aid!!!!! she then gave out a huge sigh i looked at her and said "excuse me i couldnt help overhearing but was that your mum and does she have dementia?" she laughed out loud and asked if i was a pyschic? she looked stressed and older than her years? she was so happy to talk to someone who understood and we had a good laugh more coffee and a bitch and a moan!! weve agreed to meet up every week now as she is like me alone and stressed AND surprise surprise family dont want to know! She was so happy to just let off steam and said her friends just didnt understand and shed noticed them backing away alot lately?? i felt good that i made her day and she said you cheered me up today i was meant to meet you!

Yeh life is strange but its nice to have a friend to have a coffee with once a week who is going through what youre going through!!

Yeh funny you get out to escape dementia and end up talking about it to a stranger but i could see she was delighted to have that chat!! meant alot to her so made me feel good!
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Hope I'm actually giggling now - is that what my mother sees when I'm lecturing her? Daffy Duck going yap yap yap with added spray???

Crown in heaven, eh? Not a dunce's cap? I'd swap it for a week's formal one-to-one training from Teepa Snow.
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(((hope))) did you call about getting back on the meds? Not the perfect answer to an awful situation but it really helps squash the feeling on "hopelessness". We'd all rather have hope, without the less!!
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Countrymouse, girlie....it surely does help me to hear I am not insane....sorry you are having that kind of encounter...don't you wonder what these docs think when we do that...I have done it myself..only in front of our hospice folks...who seem to see it all the time and thought nothing of it... and are you ever right, it always seems to happen at the worst possible time...even though I am not sure when a good time would ever be either...I used to could deal with things like this without acting so psychotic...but then in those days...way back in the far off recesses of my mind..I vaguely remember having other things to do later that took my mind off these things....I've only been doing this now going on three years, and I see folks who have been at it much longer.....wow....I don't even know what else to say other than wow......and again, I heard that comment....you will get your crown in heaven....friend I won't even make it there to pick that little number up at the rate I seem to be going....I got so mad the other day and was just yelling to myself to be yelling and spit was flying everywhere...I suddenly reminded myself of that cartoon character that can't talk without salivating...Daffy Duck? I need to change my avatar to Daffy ...lol you have inspired me to head to the yard as well...plus we got a little burst of fallish air this morning which should only get better as the afternoon goes on...a nice day to get out and feel the sunshine....thanks :)
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Hope I don't know if it's any consolation but I was tearing my hair out with my mother in front of her doctor this afternoon. And it was only supposed to be a five minute check-up - poor man didn't know where to put himself. It's sheer frustration. And your mother goes silent and helpless like that (in my livid, more paranoid moments I'd probably call it 'dumb insolence' though of course it isn't) because she doesn't know what to do about it either. Babe, we can only keep going.

You reckon we'll miss it when it's not there? Hmmmmmm…

Any WHY do they always pick the worst possible moment?

(And when would be a good moment…?)

You are not a joke. You are having a life: this life. It's just a bit shabby at the moment. In fact, appropriately enough, it is poo. But time marches on, and venting helps, and hearing other people vent helps even more, and this too will pass. Thank you for making me feel a bit more normal and a bit less like a drama queen-cum-evil sarcastic nut job. Big hugs.

PS I ignored all beeps and got my salvia planted after we got home. Dug proper planting holes, added compost and everything! It's only taken me a fortnight to get round to it...
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Part of my failing in this is even believing I have a life anymore.....or trying to plan something...and by that I don't even mean something fun...just something I actually enjoy...like my garden...yesterday had planned on getting out there and ended up spending most of the morning with the new hospice folks . by the time all that was done, it was the heat of the day, so I tried to busy myself with getting the laundry done, and by then was so tired and disgruntled and then it was time to change Mama again, and another mess there, then another load of laundry..I finally just gave up...same this morning...got up early with high hopes, all that went to h*ll in a hurry.....I am determined somehow today to just get out there if I don't do anything but go out there and pull a weed and come in....what an enormous joke I am.....I know I sound like I hate my Mama...I don't hate her...I feel ashamed of myself...I always thought of myself as the perfect caregiver....and now am seeing there is no such thing.....and I know some day I am going to look back and wish I had a mess to clean up or a strange thing to have to listen to...well, I don't know...because I don't think I will...but what I will hate is that I got to the point I have reached where I am so freaking tired and b*tchy all the time I don't even want to be around my own self...and I can't get away from me.....
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How can I be able to haul two fifty pound bags of cracked corn on my shoulders easy...have this much trouble changing someone who is bedfast...the pants they provide are some kind of new fangled allegedly "better" product and ever since we have had to use them, it is a complete bed change every time as Mama has an enormous BM everytime I change her....which is often....I got up this morning trying to be prayerful, had my heart and head in the right direction and then run into this....I feel like such a loser...I AM such a loser...I actually screamed at her this morning ....why did I do that?......she can't help it....God I am so freaking tired....this morning it is dawning on me that I have given up my entire life so I can take care of someone who does nothing but eat and crap.....I even WISH she would scream at me, hit me, or do something that made me know she is even there....she just lays there and stares at me, as if to say I am so disappointed in you.....I am thankful I do not have firearms in the house today...I would never hurt my Mama but dear God I think I would happily check out today.....never fails, when I try to praise God, seems like the devil says...oh no, we can't have that....I'll throw something at you that'll make you come apart...and he did...and I failed....again.......headed out to buy some diapers that actually work..
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i took some whole wheat sausage cheese bread to a doc customers family once . it was loaf form , thickly sliced . his extended family loved it and he told me it was a complete meal in perfect balance ..
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Haha, I am a lover of gluten. Bread, pasta!! Yum! But I have switched to Almond milk. Never liked regular milk much anyway. I still use it on cereal, but get a good amount of calcium every day w/almond milk.
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Try going to McDonalds, order a Big Mac, and ask them to hold the bun :)

As for that tummy fat, good lord, that sprang up in the last few years.... I never had children so I just blamed it on menopause..... now I can blame it on Wonder Bread :0 Now I am more than determined to limit my wheat consuming efforts... already do the Lactose-free with milk.
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Well you have to want one more than the other i guess? for me its easy as it makes me ill so i dont have much choice really and you get used to it! only problem is eating out but alot of restos are doing more and more wheat free as its becoming so common now! you can have a burger but no bun and no cheese just a salad HA!! Wheat is the main cause for tummy fat! and as ive had no kids i dont have a tummy only when i eat wheat? which is when i realised something was very wrong then id go off wheat and still bloat so i realised it was milk too its always good to know eventually but it took years to find out as doc poo poo any carb cutting but things have changed and doc have been wrong now!
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Kazzaa, a former co-worker of mine couldn't eat wheat and she had a slim figure that we all were jealous about.

But what will I do without my Stouffer's Mac & Cheese !!! Love that stuff :)
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Actually FF it is according to him? yep wheat is our enemy its only now its coming out! he talks about all the health effects it has on the body but you have to be careful going off it as you get bad withdrawal for a week or two but then your energy soars!! you feel better after a few days though and much lighter well i do anyway but i just cant eat it which maybe reading that book is a blessing!!! also cant have dairy makes me sick but almond milk is great! also you cannot get fat its not possible i only bloat when i eat wheat or dairy which can make you look fatter than you are! yep get this book its a scary read but an eye opener!!
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Emjo, thanks for the Kinnikinnick information... I just Googled it, and bookmarked it. I will try some of their products. Wow, so many to choose from. Back 30 years ago my doctor had me go off wheat/milk for a month.... gluten-free products were far and few between... if one wanted bread, only choice was rice bread frozen at a health food store.

kazzaa, I just Googled grain-brain... looks like an interesting read. Wouldn't it be something if later down the road that wheat was the culprit for memory lost !!
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Well emjo ive read that if you are intolerant to wheat you or more then likely intolerant to most grains so i avoid them all even oats? the best way to handle it is carry lots of snacks i eat alot of almonds and nuts also cooked chicken any protein to keep the bloods from spiking! he also said and ive read this that eat fruit on an empty stomach!
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FF - there are some good dairy subs products out there too. Coconut milk based ice cream for example. If your dad is lactose intolerant he can take lactaid tablets before eating dairy ice cream or whatever, If he is actually allergic to dairy he should not have any. I know of others who do not have allergies who think a little won't matter. It does!!! Frustrating!!!
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Yes emjo i think you are a good ad for no wheat and dairy and alot of stars dont touch it my doc said to look on it as poison for me anyway! i also feel less tired when im off it as i dont get the "carb coma" i would just flake out after a pkt of biscuits for about an hour!!
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I must read grain brain. I find I am better off with few grains - no wheat and not much if the others.
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kazzaa, my Dad tried some rice bread, he said it tasted better toasted with a lot of butter.... but after a week of rice bread, it bound him up pretty bad... oops.

Told Dad to try the Chex gluten-free cereals, got him honey nut rice and he really likes that. And told him not to have toast after his cereal, apparently my parents would eat both at breakfast. Of course Mom doesn't like any change in her cooking, she thinks a little bit of anything one is allergic to won't bother them.... [sigh]. Dad is also dairy intolerant, he does like the Lactaid milk. Mom can't understand why Dad gets an upset stomach after eating ice cream.... hello, it's diary. Again with "well, a little bit won't hurt him"..... [banging head against wall].
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I have been wheat free for years and have no arthritis even at my age. (nearly 77). Those glutino cookies are good and there are more and more substitutes on the market for breads, baked goods, pasta etc. I found some great choc covered donuts gluten and dairy free. I don't indulge much in baked goods, but a treat once in a while is great. Kinnikinnick has a online store and lots of good products.
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FF is you read "grain brain" you may never eat wheat again!!
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Yes there are alot of good gluten free but im intolerant to all the wheat so i cant eat glutenfree only wheatfree which is pretty tasteless so i dont bother!!
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Yeh FF wheat causes inflamation in joints so yes good for him!! i told my friend who has arthritis in her hands pretty bad and shes only 50 but she wont listen says she could never give up bread so tough for her but it does work!
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kazzaa, my Dad is trying to go gluten-free as he read that eating no wheat or less wheat makes arthritis less painful and so far he's complaining less and less about the pain. Also read where going gluten-free makes one sleep better. Hmmm, maybe I will give it a try.

Found at the grocery store some wheat-free Oreo type cookies, made by Glutino, that tasted like the real thing.... now Dad won't be tempted to get into Mom's stash of Little Debbie products :)
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JB i guess get some and give it to mum and see? i cant see it would do any harm with a little dose? she may giggle a bit hopefully wouldnt even a little giggle be worth it!! then she may get hungry?
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