I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
A little humour here. On the weekend, R and I went to a Bluegrass Festival in the city. We enjoyed the performances from the little kids who played, to the award winning band. it's not my favourite type of music but I think that any music played well is worth listening to. And the festival had a good family atmosphere.
Having never been to a bluegrass event, a few days before I asked R what I should wear, and he said what you have on now is fine. There will be people there dressed very casually to others dressed up.
OK!
I was a little mortified once we were settled in our seats to see that people were universally very casually dressed, is mured shades of light grey and beige to dark blues and black. R was the best dressed man is a dress shirt and slacks but at least he followed the general colour scheme - blue and beige. I, on the other hand, stood out like lava flowing from a volcano at night. Yes, I was dressed in orange, not a dark dignified autumnal orange, but an almost fluorescent spring orange reminiscent of the colour of some african daisies I have grown.
R said, "There's nothing wrong with standing out."
I guess there isn't if you plan to, but I hadn't.
Sarcastic then, but now it can be applied literally to many in the medical professions.
The slow decline is so hard for Mom and for you . (((Hugs)))
The waking thing is normal to everyone. Mothers with little babies, people with jobs, teachers, school kids. Once Mom is gone you will worry about what may happen to you. The darkness scares us all.
Divert yourself. Whether white noise, soothing music, of whatever, divert you mind. Hey, I do true crime podcasts when/if I wake up. One therapist's book suggests you change that night monster into a real monster, acknowledge and welcome it with its boring and repetitive nonsense. Let it go on and on and tell it "But you already SAID all this". Decorate it, tell it it looks silly, whatever.
WE ARE ALL AFRAID sometimes. We are ALL WORRIED sometimes. And you have circular thought out this thing about Mom over and over.
As Dr Laura says, not everything can be fixed.
As the Serenity Prayer says "Serenity to accept what you can't change, courage to change what you can, wisdom to know the difference."
Happy dreams.
That truly haunts me.
Logos are hijacked as well making the email or text look legitimate.
Good rule to follow, never open links on text or email, never call back a different number from the paperwork/cards you receive from your providers of any type and NEVER give anyone remote access to a tech device.
I am sure there are lots more "do nots" but, these are the ones we see causing problems repeatedly.
Venting, I hope that you get some satisfaction with your situation.
I just want to warn everyone again, since I knew nothing about such scams before:
It’s possible for criminals/scammers to impersonate another email address, which looks almost identical to the original one. Sometimes there’s only one letter difference. One really must watch out. It’s also possible for hackers to completely take over an email account.
Sometimes the scammers stalk an email account for a long time, reading all the emails, learning all the details. Then they pounce at the right time and try to grab the money, by re-directing you to another bank account. They can even reply to a whole real past email thread (that’s what happened to me), which is why I suspected nothing. It looked very real, because otherwise how would they have access to the past email thread? The answer: because the email account was hacked.
What I learned:
before making any big money transaction, CALL the person you know so you can verify the details.
You wrote: “In my financial job they'd hack a client email and based on prior exchanges mention a detail or two from those etc, mimicking style. Then they'd make a cash request and oh btw they've changed banks and here's the new banking info.”
This is basically identical to what happened to me. But it wasn’t my email that was hacked.
Several employees who are smart smart smart got ensnared. It's easy to let our guard down when all the seeming "boxes" are checked esp when they drop info that only that person would generally know it seems soooo much to be the person who has been hacked.
A good practice for any of us trying to vet any type of request to pay a bill or for funds....
Again I'm sorry this happened. 🥺
Do not trust @dr.com
Thanks so much for this information on the scam.
They will always find a new way and this IS a new way.
Somehow this hacker managed to get into this legitimate plea for help and get funds put into HIS thing.
I am so suspicious anymore I am quite paralyzed with the whole giving thing. It pretty much has to be hand to hand for me now if it isn't some massive organization I trust. And how many of those are there?
Happy New Year to you too!
I also want to warn you about scammers. It never happened to me before. But I’ve been email-scammed.
This is just to warn you, since it happened to me. I got an email-reply that was part of a whole valid email thread between someone (X) and I. X needed money I was willing to give to X. X is innocent in this story.
That email-reply (X@dr.com) had X’s name in it. I totally believed it was X writing to me. I never suspected anything.
Actually that email (X@dr.com) was a scammer and I transferred money to him. I’m a victim of crime. I reported it to the police.
X@dr.com wrote to me in the same style as X. The scammers are very tricky.
Do not trust emails from @dr.com
So, it's very hot Margaret?
Llama, Yes, beware the little blue man.
I could not post on Aging Care for weeks awhile back.
jenny10 - Good ideas. This thread started many years ago and the OP (original Poster) left some years ago. Generally this thread is used to let off steam, vent, whatever. It has become very useful for that and covers a wide range of topics.
fast food is ok now and again. I think you need to cook and freeze and maybe some meals dont have be be elaborate - an omelette for example - break a couple eggs - whisk - a pinch salt/pepper in a small frying pan - put under grill to cook the top and sprinkle a little cheese on top - 10minutes. Serve with toast or salad. Who doesnt like some beans on toast at times - sprinkle cheese on top and you have a filling meal. Soup for lunch and a roll - boil your own veg with a stock cube or buy if money ok and just heat up. yogurt and banana for breakfast ? bran cereal? - 5 minutes? Serve a drink before dinner - that may regulate the appetite?
Yogurt after meals helps full up.
As for you - maybe time for a switch in meals - and include some healthier options which may be quicker to prepare - you'll have more energy end of day. Good luck. Its not easy but rewarding when you get a good system in place and the benefits to your health - even if its just for less work
If I'm posting about a paper on the whine thread late at night, that means I have two working brain cells, and the rest of my bandwidth is fried. I'm not thinking straight; my brain is on overload.
Great suggestion to check through the Parkinson's posts -- thank you! My goal is to get a more personalized feel for what neuroimaging means to patients. I'm not going to become a radiologist so for me, it's more about how imaging helps or doesn't help folks with PD.
I'm glad to be learning this stuff, indeed. It's just a bit to take in. And some of you are right nerds (i.e., very intelligent and have been around elder care and this forum for a long time).
My fritz-out level is down today. The paper is late; oh well. Thanks again.