I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
But Princess rules whenever she comes to visit since she used to live with us before I got my cat . She always remembers the house even if it’s been 6 months since she visited . ( My daughter took the princess with her when she moved out 4 years ago ).
Princess jumps out of her carrier and the cats boop noses and then princess hisses as she needs her alone time to check out her old home . She runs straight upstairs to my daughter’s old room for a while . Then she comes back downstairs to complete her tour , checking each room .
My cat always wants to play . Princess will play with her chasing each other at 4am. 🙄🙄
I have always hated the return to standard time. Maximize evening sunlight! Never, ever did any of my kids get up early to play outside before school. But they’d come home from school with excess energy and stress to blow off. By the time they got home, dumped their stuff, and had a snack, it was dark. I hated running errands on my way home from work in the dark. DST all year please!
Yes, I am a bundle of contradictions; more so lately than ever! I should probably explore that but In the immortal words of Scarlett O’Hara, “I’ll think about that - tomorrow”.
I'm just starting to be able to sleep till 6am, it's taking me years, and now with the time change, that is going to be a struggle again.
Actually curious, how many hours is normal amount of sleep you all need?
I know it varies with age, but I honestly feel like I don't need more than 6 hours, and it's very frustrating, because I like sleep, I just don't need much, and days are long .
Maybe once a week I may be able to get 7 , but average is 5-6 and I don't often feel like I'm overtired.
Peasuep, 😂 your right that is funny, you did do that
Cwillie, I know what ya mean, I f
Don't fall asleep to early, but I get really lazy in the evening, and it's a struggle to push myself to move. The couch, my cozy blanket, and Netflix, is always calling me.
So sorry to read you have the flu .🤧🤧 Hoping you get better real soon , and the fibromyalgia flare up lessens as well .
It is that season , I’m battling a nasty cold myself right now from the kids I babysit.
Uggh, up way too early today . This changing the clocks stinks .
Psue - sorry for what you are going through with your hub. I'm glad you are considering alternatives' for when things get worse, which, sadly, they will. Hope the drs appointments go well. I'm glad you are able to feel your feelings.
We found out it is a 14 month wait for R to see a neurologist. That's not a lot of help. But I think he is getting in to see the opthamologist sooner, which is helpful. His BP is doing well - gradually getting a bit higher, especially when he is relaxed.
Nacy - I just finished reading Tuesdays with Morrie. He does a good job of processing his feelings.
No clue what set him off. He doesn’t know either.
I’m not sure what will happened when bad things are coming so close together I don’t have fade time. That will probably be the time I need to find help at home or a new place for him to live.
Do you have a tip on how to let it go? I'm curious
Glad he is having a better day, do you know what may have set this off?
And sorry, now I remember the doctor issues you had.
btw, DH is much better this morning. I still have time in my 24 hours to be mad and scared about yesterday so I’m going to use it, as juvenile and irrational as that is. Yesterday was awful and I feel bruised. I canceled our scheduled day today with DD and GD last night - it would have broken GD’s heart to see him that way and I couldn’t take the chance. Now I’m resentful and angry at myself for that on top of everything. Pathetic.
When is his next appointment?
"It disturbs me that she seems happiest when she’s the centre of attention, even if it’s for doing something absolutely awful."
That's what narcissists do and have no idea, apparently, that what they do negatively affects others, or they don't care, or they do care and are happy b/c that's the effect they want. Yes, no remorse etc. whatsoever.
I am glad you have been able to detach, but I know it's still disturbing. Not sure how much a psych hold and ?diagnosis/treatment? would be able to do for her at this stage. Mother didn't have hallucinations after they put her on an antipsychotic, but she could still be very still nasty. That didn't change. They told me she was too old for treatment - the pathways were too ingrained.
nacy - speaking of pathways, the human brain is very interesting to me. Definitely we can rewire and redirect thoughts to our benefit. Our brains have "plasticity". The more we dwell on negative things the easier it is for our brains to go there. The pathways get practiced. So practicing "good thoughts" makes it easier for our brains to go there too. We can develop new thinking patterns and habits.
way - I hope you have had some success with property care. I can't tell you how happy I am to be rid of that. We had thought of buying a house here in this town, but opted for the condo, and what a good thing too with all the issues R has been having. He wouldn't have been able to keep up with the care at times.
Psue, R is very active as his father was and his bros are. Even in the past 2 years I have seen him work 14 hrs a day at renos for a week at a time. In that time he does the work of at least 2 men. Works, eats breakfast, works, eats lunch, works, takes an hour for supper, then works till bedtime. His walking a few blocks and climbing 5 flights of stairs didn't even get his BP or HR up. And this was at the end of a busy day relocating horses and whatever. He says as his father did and his grandfather did he will work until he can't. Father stopped farming in his 70s when he needed a pacemaker. He is downsizing his horse herd - it's a slow business and meanwhile they need hay and water and...
His BP was up to 116/77 this morning which is great. It seems when he is stressed or tired his BP goes down while most peoples' would go up. When he is rested it's higher. Just the way he is built. Relieved to see the improvement.
We have a funeral to go to tomorrow - wife of a second Cousin of R's, in her 70s. She was diagnosed with cancer a few months ago and didn't tell anyone. She went very quickly. Always a sad time.
I looked on Nextdoor .
I already use a company for lawn but they don’t do snow .
I’m willing to use a new company for both lawn and snow , just so he will take us on , even though he already quoted me a higher mowing charge than I pay now .
Plan on downsizing when we retire . Right now commute to work is keeping us here .
I tried to get the attention of one teen who was offering mowing, etc, who gave out his email address. I sent him an e-mail this past spring (doubled checked his email address), still waiting for an answer.... (sigh). I eventually signed up with a commercial company to do mowing, would have paid that teen the same amount if he would have contacted me.
Being a non medical person it was not an easy read, took me a lot of rereading and looking up words.
But it was really really fascinating to me, anyways. Learning about all the different parts of the brain, and kinds of anxiety.
It's not for everyone, but I enjoyed it