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Sounhappy,, your profile is empty, and your posts tell us nothing about what is going on.. for weeks now. It makes me, at least, a bit worn out on your posts. I have no idea how to help you, or if you even want help? If you just want to vent that's great,, but really, we need some info here! Sorry if I am out of line, but normally we have something to respond to.
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Alva I am afraid I would get into them, like I do my books. My DD swears by a white noise type thing she has, she is getting me one. This week its an elderly 4 lb chihuahua with potty issues and who wakes me up at 1 am for a walk,, the one night she didn't wake me up she peed the bed. She and DD are lucky I love them! Plus DH still coughs all night, luckily we go to the dentist next week for his fitting for his permanent teeth, this implant thing has been going on for over a year. We are told it should be better once the permanent "teeth" are placed. The ones he has now have a bit of plate behind them and he has been gagging/coughing etc for the entire time the implants have been "settling" while he was recovering from getting them all pulled they made him dentures, he could not wear them at all!
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Pam,

Have you ever tired podcasts for sleep. I love them waking or sleeping, but if I ever have one of my very rare sleepless nights I find that true crime podcasts put me out like the proverbial light.
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Sounhappy,

"Bullies" don't stop bullying.
It is well enough to hope for justice.
But it is a bit like "hoping for rain". Unpredictable.

Best thing for bullies is to stop waiting, stop hoping, stop weather reports, and just cut them completely out of your life with a surgically sharp knife.
Then don't let them near you again.

Try it; I have found it to have better results that "waiting" and "hoping".
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I see a glimmer of justice!!!….Some things are going the right way.

The bullies (family members) continue. But I see some justice.
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Still hoping for justice. I’ll know in some weeks.
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Pamz

I hear it takes time to adjust to retirement . ((((Hugs))).
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pamz: I don't know how you managed to go anywhere with no sleep, let alone be upright. Hope that you can sort out your sleep hygiene.
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@pam ,
when I was young I worked nights , took care of my kids during the day. Took a nap after dinner. I used to say “ sleep, what’s that ? “
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way that is what my Dr says.. and several of my friends who have retired are still in the same boat, or have told me it has taken a year to adjust. Getting up at 4 am for 26 years,, its a habit! And I still want to go to bed at 8pm, to my husbands dismay. The medical life is still out to get us!
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@pamzimmrrt,

Former nurse here . Most of us have bad sleep hygiene . I left nursing 4 years ago after 35 years . I still can’t go to sleep at a decent hour .
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LLama I have crappy sleep hygiene. So did my mother (a nurse) so maybe its heriditary (my Dr has tried alot of things for it but I don;t like alot of the side effects) I just keep chugging along most days.. but some days I am in a crappy mood! Last night DD puppers and I slept in the spare room,, she and our puppers are too much in one bed and sometimes squabble. She needed a walk at 1 am,, I think I slept walked through that one! She is 14, and a cranky old lady ( like I can be) I may take my ativan again tonight. I used to hate to take it because it would kick in about the time I had to get up for work. But hey,, one good thing about retirement! My friend is arriving at about 3 tomorrow, still not sure what we will do about the craft fair and the rain. She is sort of "high maintenance" and she will be in DD old room with a twin bed. I just can't imagine squeezing the pup and I in that! But its set up nice with a TV and I put "good stuff " in the spare bathroom for her. ( yes she actually once complained about my shampoo and conditioner in there.) But Hey,, I love her.
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Thanks Need, Way, all. Crazy situation. I just hope it ends well.
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Way: You're welcome.
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Need, Llama , thanks .
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Way: Prayers for your son and his Covid dx.
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pamz: How on earth did you go anywhere with no sleep? My goodness.
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Hothouseflower:

Surgeons are supposed to do a sponge count after surgery, but it seemed that they did not do one when your friend had the surgery. This was definitely a malpractice lawsuit that your friend should have pursued, but I guess the statute of limitations ran on that one.
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Sounhappy,

I am not familiar with your situation but I hope that it will work out for you.
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Way,

Hope your son recovers quickly from Covid.
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Barb,

Crazy situation with your husband. It’s frustrating to say the least and certainly frightening.

I think of my younger brother’s wife who wasn’t informed of her breast cancer (first mammogram.) She did sue and won over a million dollars.

By the time she found the lump she had stage four cancer and had to undergo double mastectomy and reconstructive surgery.

Sadly she died with lung cancer later on due to smoking.
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Beatty ,
We considered canceling trip . We just want it over with . We only go about 3 times a year , and we avoid going during snow season .
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Barb, wire left where? Oh my! Speedy recovery for your husband.

Alva ummm.. that wire pulled out picture you painted NOOO (but would be a very good retirement boosting lawsuit).

Way, sorry to hear about your son's covid. Trip cancel??
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Just to update, my DH is healing well. Thank you all SO much for listening to my "whine" last night!
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"Why can’t just one of them cooperate ?????" That's the million dollar question waytomisery.
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My adult son has Covid . He went to visit a friend and they went to a museum and rode a shuttle bus to a factory tour .

He was supposed to cat sit for me this weekend while we go check on MIL 4 hours away .

I feel bad that my son is ill , but I don’t feel bad that now it will cut our trip in half , so we can get back home . The cat is fine by herself for a day .

I don’t even know what I will say to MIL anymore . It’s the same selfish Cr4p everytime . “ I’m not getting any younger , I want great grand children “. “ When is K…… going to get married , so I get to go to my granddaughters wedding , and it better not be another destination wedding .”
(My son had a destination wedding ) .

Apparently my children are not fulfilling their grandmother’s wishes. How dare they live their own lives !!!

Oh and of course DH will try to talk to her about POA etc , and needing a walker etc …….just for her to refuse . She’s only 86, she says “it’s not time yet “. Not to mention she’s a terrible driver , but that’s not new. She’s the kind that causes accidents , but isn’t in them .

Unless something happens suddenly ,she will be the last of our 4 parents to be ripped out of her house for refusing to have help come in . Why can’t just one of them cooperate ?????
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Sounhappy, I hope it works out for you.
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In about two weeks, I’ll know if JUSTICE IS REAL…or just some myth in fairytales.
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Oh, Barb!
I am certainly glad they never did an MRI, Barb, with that wire left in unbeknowst to anyone. I cannot imagine what the results of that would have been. This is definitely medical negligence that has resulted in the need for another surgery. One would think it worthy of a suit, but, oh no. Suits only go forward when there are DAMAGES, so hubby could likely only get a lawsuit if the wire had pulled his genitalia right off during an MRI.
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Barb, So glad they found the problem. Thank God for that.

I had a friend who had surgery back in the 1970s. She had huge digestive issues for nearly 50 years. Tests did not reveal anything. She tried everything, medication, gluten free diets, checked for allergies, stress relieving exercises. You name it. It changed how she could live her life.

Last year she had a blockage and was rushed to the hospital and a CT scan was done. It finally revealed a foreign body in her gut. She had emergency surgery to remove a sponge from the surgery done in the 70s. (That was a NYC municipal hospital, not world class but really????)

This egregious mistake messed up her life for 50 years. She chose not to sue because she did not want to waste her precious time doing it. Not sure I agree, I would have been out for blood.
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