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My sister has decided to be aggressive and mean to me while we are co caring for dad on hospice in his home. I am HCP and responsible for dad's finances for 9 yrs. and was his choice to do so. WTH???
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Verystressed:
“Today I’m thinking about my age, and how time’s slipping by while I help my mom. I want to have kids.”

I think it’s a clear sign that things need to change. You deserve to get your life back.
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Barb: What a horrible thing that your friend was told by some people!
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Thanks for the kind words. One day at a time, I'll get through it.
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Thanks for your compassion Need. Your words are soothing. Thanks Venting.

That’s right, I want freedom.
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Hothouse, Verystressed:
like Need, I hope you can both be free.

Thanks Need, you express it better than me!!!
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I’m so sorry that you are in this situation, verystressedout. I don’t know your story but I hope that you are able to become free one day.
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cw,

I hate that expression too. It never made sense to me.
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Today I’m thinking about my age, and how time’s slipping by while I help my mom. I want to have kids.
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Barb,

That is truly an awful thing to say to someone. I bet she felt like screaming when she heard that.
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Barb - that's even worse than people who tell you god doesn't give us more than we can handle, its not only unhelpful but absolutely wrong.
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Young friend, age 28, who just got out of the Navy is having a double mastectomy on June 16th.

She said to me "people keep saying 'look at the bright side...'".

I stopped and told her she has my permission to hit ANYONE who says those words to her.
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Hothouse, I hope the next 6 weeks aren’t too terrible. (((HUG)))
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(((HUG))) Hothouse.

I live very near my mom. When I visit to help out, I get knots, too. I also noticed I eat a lot of snacks, right before visiting. It’s like I have to numb myself before going there.

I’m thinking of quitting to help. I’ve given years of my life helping (not every day), for an ungrateful, extremely abusive mom.

Hothouse, it’s so hard.
And it just keeps going…unless one totally walks away. I know you’re doing it to help your sisters, otherwise they have to do everything alone.

It’s bad enough giving a huge chunk of one’s time, but getting abused, insulted, while you help?…
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Heading back to NYC Tuesday for my six week stint at my parents’. Have a knot in my stomach already. So tired and depressed about it all.
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Need: You're welcome. Mine is not constant - not too bad.
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Thanks, Llama

My headache finally eased up. I hope you feel better soon too.
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Need: Accuweather has a measuring stick of sorts regarding sinus headaches. It has been "very high" for the Baltimore area for days. I've had a headache, too. Hope you feel better.
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Ana, your cat is accepted with flying colors!
(Enter: supercat hero music)
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My cat wishes to submit her press kit for consideration in an action/superhero role. After all, she has lived with six Great Danes.
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“venting . My cat , Daisy, says she wants her own dressing room.”

Haha :)
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Need,

Feel better .

venting . My cat , Daisy, says she wants her own dressing room .

FIL is back at AL today has called 3 times already , DH trying to work from home . He’s losing it. I told him to put his phone upstairs . He has a different cell phone for work anyway . 😭
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Get well soon, Need! Fit for our movie. The little cats are really looking forward to being in the movie.
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I have had a sinus headache for two days now. Grrrrrr

I am going to take some Tylenol and allergy meds today.
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Tg,

Transitional times are the worst. After everything is settled, you will feel better.

Congrats on making necessary changes.
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TG: Thank you for your update. You are never a failure.💗💗
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TG, thanks for the update! Glad you are doing a facility to facility transfer, which is the safest and best way to get this accomplished.

Yes, it's hard and decidedly NO you are no a failure. Your dad needs more and different care than what can be provided at home. Anyone's home, not just yours.
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So Dad is still in rehab out of state. He's getting more comfortable. We did discuss going to a permanent facility in another state and he is all for it. My sibling and I are actually in agreement. I am in charge of finance so I am doing all the leg work. Sent the paperwork out to go through the application. Now it is a waiting game. The current place is working with us which is great so far.
Big difference in life at home, able to talk, move things around, and plan to get my office above grade to where my plan and it was was years ago. Be able to be warm working this winter and see daylight.
He's doing OK from what he tells me. Sounds like he is slowing down, speech is different.
Big weight on and off of me. One part is good the other one is hard. I was doing fine until I sent the application packet to the home overnight, kind of like a sword in my stomach, I know it has to be done but man it is hard. Partly feel like a failure that I have to do this but I know it's for his best. I'll go from seeing him every day to maybe 2 times a year. As much as I complained it will be hard.
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Venting, oh thankyou for the beautiful cat video! You will be CLEAN my darling kittens!!
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I can't stand flying. In Atlanta waiting to get our flight to SLC. Food stands are closing or have broken machines or huge lines. Ridiculous for such a large airport. I know there are worse problems but my whine of the day. I usually don't have many.
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