I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
“Today I’m thinking about my age, and how time’s slipping by while I help my mom. I want to have kids.”
I think it’s a clear sign that things need to change. You deserve to get your life back.
That’s right, I want freedom.
like Need, I hope you can both be free.
Thanks Need, you express it better than me!!!
I hate that expression too. It never made sense to me.
That is truly an awful thing to say to someone. I bet she felt like screaming when she heard that.
She said to me "people keep saying 'look at the bright side...'".
I stopped and told her she has my permission to hit ANYONE who says those words to her.
I live very near my mom. When I visit to help out, I get knots, too. I also noticed I eat a lot of snacks, right before visiting. It’s like I have to numb myself before going there.
I’m thinking of quitting to help. I’ve given years of my life helping (not every day), for an ungrateful, extremely abusive mom.
Hothouse, it’s so hard.
And it just keeps going…unless one totally walks away. I know you’re doing it to help your sisters, otherwise they have to do everything alone.
It’s bad enough giving a huge chunk of one’s time, but getting abused, insulted, while you help?…
My headache finally eased up. I hope you feel better soon too.
(Enter: supercat hero music)
Haha :)
Feel better .
venting . My cat , Daisy, says she wants her own dressing room .
FIL is back at AL today has called 3 times already , DH trying to work from home . He’s losing it. I told him to put his phone upstairs . He has a different cell phone for work anyway . 😭
I am going to take some Tylenol and allergy meds today.
Transitional times are the worst. After everything is settled, you will feel better.
Congrats on making necessary changes.
Yes, it's hard and decidedly NO you are no a failure. Your dad needs more and different care than what can be provided at home. Anyone's home, not just yours.
Big difference in life at home, able to talk, move things around, and plan to get my office above grade to where my plan and it was was years ago. Be able to be warm working this winter and see daylight.
He's doing OK from what he tells me. Sounds like he is slowing down, speech is different.
Big weight on and off of me. One part is good the other one is hard. I was doing fine until I sent the application packet to the home overnight, kind of like a sword in my stomach, I know it has to be done but man it is hard. Partly feel like a failure that I have to do this but I know it's for his best. I'll go from seeing him every day to maybe 2 times a year. As much as I complained it will be hard.