
Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.
I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.
Thanks!
And thanks for everyone who commented. I was so 'otherwise focused' that I forgot about my ice packs that have helped. I was freezing ice in a cup to put a coin on top as a test if a power outage melted food in our fridge. (The coin will sink if it melts.)
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When a family member was in AL, he did need more help, but only at times.
There were staff employed there who could also be paid privately to watch over him, like a part-time caregiver would. The cost was low on a monthly basis.
There exists also a specialty of sitters for the elderly who go to peoples' homes,
to hospitals, and AL, other facilities. I don't recall their title, but just sit in the room, observe, and report to qualified staff. No caregiver qualifications needed keeps the cost low. Not sure, but some sitters are volunteers.
Talk to the staff about easing his adjustment by having someone watch your dH overnight if that is what he needs. Staff does take the family's input into consideration, so no need to suffer your concerns silently. They can also reassure you.
The staff may need to reassess his care needs, and will know this-it is their job.
Take good care Peasuep.
I'm so sorry about the fires. I used to live in the Beach Cities in LA, and several friends in LA have been evacuated. It's scary. The high winds and dryness have caused so much devastation with these fires.
Psue, I'm so sorry. It's a tough thing to witness. I hope a neurologist or psychiatrist can help with symptoms. Behavioral approaches only go so far when the underlying cause is progressive neurological degeneration.
This isn't their first rodeo, even if it is yours. Let them do their job and take some time to look after you. I'm sorry that dh is worse. This disease is dreadful. He may need some medication to calm him down. His routine has been upset by the move. Hopefully he will settle down some as he adjusts to his new situation.
One person (i.e. you) cannot do this job. Others share responsibility now. Give yourself a break. It must be very hard to hand over these duties after so many years of being the only one. Don't take on the future now. Just do one day, one hour at a time. Deep breaths, You can do it. Prayers for you and dh.
send - stay safe and that includes your emotional health. Fires are so destructive. Not sure that the snow would help. I wouldn't try it anyway.
The news is so tragic. So much loss.
Take good care.
DH is SO much worse, especially during sundowning hours. I don’t think there is enough staff to help him in AL at nighttime. I don’t know what to do.
Lack of sleep can mess with our brains. It can cause sleep deprivation psychosis,
and physical pain, which can be cured by getting some worry-free sleep.
Last night, as the News reports piled on reports of devastation from fires, and worried neighbors added speculation about the fire coming closer. I took a drive. About 9 p.m. no one was out. Drove 7 miles towards the fires, taking the freeway, and looking at the valley from high up. Nothing, no fires, no smoke visible and no smell of smoke. Stopped short of the I-5 where last report of fire had spread. It would have been over that hill. The wind had calmed temporarily for the night. Turned around and came home.
This taking charge of what's going around in my head helped me sleep straight through until 9:00 a.m. A first in years, even before the fires.
We are safe.
Limiting online and News reports.
Viewing the tragic loss and devastation of homes only once can bring a person to deep grief and tears.
Turn it off, say some prayers.
Get on with a beautiful sunny day without guilt, knowing that one cannot help
others at all right now, so taking care of business at home is it.
That is all I can do right now. Me and my dH worked hard on paperwork all day.
He was able to help, and so was I.
We both are off-duty now, fixing dinner, and I will need everyone's prayers for this.
If dH turns the fire down on the boiling water for Pasta, he might be risking his own life, or maybe we won't eat at all.
Peace out.
We are safe so far in So. California.
There are no evacuation orders in my zone.
Thank you to those who have expressed concern.
As a preventative safety measure, we are packing emergency supplies and water in our car.
Stay safe everyone! I have noticed major fires in other states, in other countries.
. And i am sure that will co ntinue in some form. This is a heart wrenching time for you. Prayers for all to go smoothly.
nacy - so good to hear that your hub is doing much better and you both are on track for your cruise. Whoopee!!!! Hoping it's going to be great. Sorry about your newly sober friend. She needs support but you need peace. it's a hard call sometimes. I know I have to more carefully evaluate what I can get involved in. Seasonal cognitive decline is a new one to me. Can't say I have noticed it in anyone, but it makes sense.
BOJ - Happy New Year to you too. Hope all is decent on your caregiving front.
Sunshine here today which is very nice. It's been cold, and windy, and grey for a few days.
May it bring you reciprocated affections.
happy new year 2025!!!!
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Move in day is delayed at least one day because most helpful sister has a bad cold like so many of you. She has offered to help ease the first goodbye. Also, the facility can’t get the cable hooked up by tomorrow and there is no way I’m leaving DH anywhere without his favorite distraction!
There are so many cooties floating around and none of you need to be sick on top of all the other things you’re dealing with. I know - too late! But at least be gentle with yourselves and rest. Lord knows, you all deserve it.
LynnB - sorry for your troubles. I'm glad your dad woke up even briefly. These losses are especially hard during special days like holidays. Be sure to take care of yourself. Sounds like you need some "me" time.
Way - Glad you are detaching from mil craziness. One day, likely, it will be serious. In the condo we see senior seniors driving huge SUVs. Many of them look very frail. SUVs seem to be the vehicle of choice. Some aren't very mobile when they get out. Makes me wonder. But I do know in Alberta over 80 we all have to be tested and pronounced fit to get our drivers licences renewed. Maybe there's hope for me to drive another few years. Not sure I want to. R is very good at chauffeuring. Hope your dd is doing ok.
Psue - thinking of you. I know these are very difficult days for you and your family and you need some time to make adjustments. Thinking of you. (((((((hugs)))))
Stubborn . No point in driving myself crazy over her . We have no power . The longer this goes on , the less I worry about it or care .
The woman has a lot of unbelievable good luck despite so many falls . She said her friend is driving her to PT which she recently started for her slightly fractured shoulder from a fall about 6 weeks ago . She has been in a sling . The friend who drives her can barely walk too . 🙄🙄🙄
Take care of yourselves. Sometimes you just have to back off and wait for an event to force a change .
I hope he gets answers as soon as possible and you relief from stress and worry if even possible.
Golden, I hope your Honey is feeling more pain free as well.
DH aunt doesn’t mention pain ever. Thirst she will acknowledge. Recently her respiration increased to 32 and through process of elimination it was deemed pain from some mysterious swelling on her knee and hip and now her wrist. She was given a tiny bit of morphine twice and the respiration returned to the normal range. Plus we discovered her thyroid TSH is very high at 7.24. Other than pneumonia two years ago, this is the first time she has been ill in the three years she has been in facility care. She is 98 so I suppose it is allowed. But all a mystery.