It is over 4 years since mother died. Due to our very difficult relationship, I did a lot of grieving before she passed and haven't needed to do that much since. So I don't think this is so much related to her as to my own aging. I am 85 and inevitably think about what lies ahead. The visual which is with me right now is the sight of the Hoyer type lift in the shower room mother had in her bedroom at her NH. I also had a friend who died of metastasized breast cancer who had a Hoyer lift in her house where she stayed, with help, till close to the end. I think it symbolizes for me the absolute helplessness that can happen to a person as they near the end of their life and I don't want that! Nobody does. Yet these devices are so very useful and help to make those last years and months better. Anyone identify?