My dad had a motorcyle accident and a stroke. We don't know which caused which. He had a will made out 2 years ago and appointed his friend of 35 years POA, which I had no problem with until now. The POA is not involving us (my sister and I) with detail. We can't even get an answer to who approved my dad for zoloft. I refuse to talk directly to the POA on the phone or in person anymore. I will only correspond by text or email. He sends us vague messages and when we ask him for detail, he doesn't respond. My dad is in FL. I'm in Chicago. I have gone out there 3 times since my dad's accident and ended up spending my last trip getting paperwork that the POA could have gotten. I feel that he took on the responsibility but is now having my sister and I do all the work.
Do you think the POA is just naturally not very communicative or do you think he is making a deliberate decision not to inform you and your sister of your dad's care details?
If he's just not a good communicator (and you have the resources) you might find the assistance of a geriatric care manager helpful. If the power of attorney gives the proper permissions, a care manager can facilitate information flow. You might find that less frustrating than communicating with the POA to be kept informed- especially from a distance.
Drs don't ask for permission to give medication. They do what they feel is needed. Usually relying on what the nurses see.