His sister has moved with their mother and won't tell him the address. We are so frustrated. My husband's sister decided to move in with their elderly mother who has progressive dementia. At first we thought it was a good idea but now she has moved with their mom and won't tell my husband where they have moved to. We know she has convinced my mother in law to add the sister's name to her bank account and we believe that she is helping herself to the life savings the mom has spent her whole life accumulating. My husband was the POA but the sister convinced the mom to replace him with you know who. Isn't it tragic that we are talking about family members that commit this kind of treachery.
also if your husband has poa and has documents proving that you should be able to go to the bank to explain you did not authorize this transfer of funds...and the bank might be able to freeze sil's account and return the money to his mother...
also as poa husband might be able to acquire the mother's address via the bank
if a woman is abused and she wants to leave her abusive partner/husband and intends to take her child with her. ... to avoid be charged with kidnapping she is instructed to notify the police that she is leaving and taking the child (laws may prevent her from going out of state)...in short you are notfying authorities that you are "taking" not kidnapping the child. This is suggested to our clients where we work with domestic violence...
I have heard horrible stories about families and I am shocked by what I have heard...people do things that I would never even have thought to do...boy are we naive. detective might need/can use sister or mom's sS #--if you know the bank name they might be able to locate via the bank (perhaps you can do this)...are
So anyways will a private detective to find the mom, get info on the SiL, and then filing for guardianship be the only answer?