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You either sell your mother's property to finance her ongoing care in Memory Care Assisted Living or you stay "stuck" caring for her yourself at home. I mean, what other choices are there? You want Medicaid to fund her care AND to keep your "inheritance", is what I think you're saying, but that's not how life works. My parents went thru their entire life savings like a hot knife thru butter in order to get the proper care they required in Assisted Living and then Memory Care for mom for 3 years. I was left with nothing when she passed in February which was fine, because I wasn't in a position to do hands on caregiving for her level of dementia.

Also, if mom has no doctor, how did she get diagnosed with Alzheimer's to begin with?? Who do you call when issues arise, or do you just keep taking her to the ER? I would say it's imperative to get online and find a PCP for her immediately. I would think the hospital social worker could assist you with that. Or the area Office on Aging.

With stage 5 AD going on, it's unlikely you can get POA assigned now because she's incompetent to sign legal documents. You'll be better off going for guardianship which can be costly and take time, however.

My condolences on the loss of your father. I wish you good luck trying to care for your mother at home and preserve the 8 acres of land she owns. You may want to rethink quitting your job and losing that income, though, not to mention paying into Social Security to insure YOUR retirement years are properly covered, financially. Keep in mind your mother's resources are intended to be used for HER care in old age. Quitting your job to preserve a few acres of land may be a disastrous financial move on your part. A chat with an Elder Care atty is likely your best move at this juncture.
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Mom was diagnosed by the doctor at the rehab she was in. I had to quit my job because Someone needed to be with her all the time. And we haven't been able to get any home health care set up, because she needs to see a doctor, who refers an order to the home health care agency she her medicare advantage insurance pays for. I cant force her to see a doctor. I am going to chat with an attorney this week. The property would have to be sold for her to qualify for medicaid anyway.
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