I have moved into my aunts home to help take care of her needs. She lives in Amoy state than I do. I’ve essentially left my whole family behind. My husband comes a couple of weekends a month to see us. My auntie has no family. Her husband passed away and her children have also. She is 90 and now diagnosed with metastatic cancer. She has congestive heart failure. She is in hospice.
Giving up my job and family has been difficult. I don’t want to put her in a nursing home.
I suggest you rethink this. You have your own life. Don't do it.
Being your Aunt's live-in caregiver is not the only way but this is your decision.
Was this always an expectation? That you would care for this Aunt? A long held plan & considered decision?
Or more a swoop in during a health crises reaction?
Take the time to think & plan.
Find out a time frame if possible.
A 2 week stint you will be glad you did VS 6 months of no pay & no way out. Big diffetence.
Being a live-in fulltime caregiver can be a rewarding role. But it comes with consequences. To your finances, job, maybe to your marriage too.
Please don’t be so willing to sacrifice your own family and perhaps your marriage when you seemingly know nothing about modern nursing facilities in the USA.
This doesn't mean you don't help your Aunt, it's just that "help" in it's current form is not working. Caregiving has to be on the caregiver's terms or else that person burns out (and maybe burns out others, like hubs and kids). Auntie will have to settle for a different arrangement if you help her. You need to insist on being assigned her PoA to agree to this. She should create a POLST and a Will, if she is still cognitively able. Otherwise she will wind up being a ward of the county with a court-assigned guardian, which may not be the worst thing. Our family had a good experience with this and it was a blessing, even though it wasn't perfect.
To answer your actual question: you can only get paid from your Aunt's funds at this point, since she's in hospice which is covered by Medicare. The state will not pay you.
Your Aunt has lived a long full life, don't give up yours for her, your family must come first.
You only have 1 life, don't sacrifice it for another.
Nursing homes are not what they were 50 years ago, have you done any research? I would. If she cannot afford to self pay, she can apply for Medicaid.
Time to take care of you and your family.