My mom is going into a nursing home and as her medical power of attorney, I want to know if there is a way I can limit the visitor access to immediate family.
I wish to keep my cousin from visiting my mom and sticking her nose in our business.
Is there a way I can do that? I would hope so.
My mother is 95 and lives in a Memory Care AL with advanced dementia. I would honestly be THRILLED if my cousins had it in them to visit her, ever, no matter what their 'vaccination status' was, b/c my mother would be delighted to see them. And SHE is vaxxed, which is what counts in that department. To me, it's more important that our loved ones feel loved by their family members than it is to stay hyper focused on keeping them 'safe'.
Sorry if that's not the answer you're looking for (obviously), but it's how I feel after dealing with a mother in MC for nearly 3 years now and a whole lot of covid fatigue on everyone's part.
She is not physically up to dining with other residents and chattering with them.
I would pose this issue to you. Does your mother enjoy the company of this cousin? If she truly does you are denying your mother that contact. Nursing Homes can be terribly sad and lonely. I know because my mother is in one and she is aware enough to feel that way often.
I just had surgery and can't visit my mother for several weeks. My husband will go in my place. Fortunately she does like to see him but there are things he can't do. I will talk to her so she knows I am alright. Lately she has said each time how wonderful it is to see me. She has difficulty using her phone and depending if she is in bed or a wheelchair or lounge chair there is no way she can which leads to more isolation. I have tried to help with this when I can but there is so much time she is alone.
I am not overly fond of some relatives for various reasons but if I were to attempt to eliminate them (which I would never do and have worked to resolve issues) I would be hurting my mother.
Your issues may be very different which only you can determine. I hope you find the best solution.
(BTW this is all true in my neck of the woods)
Well, I am going to try to get it enforced anyway.
The problem is my cousin is one of those people who cannot socially distance and behave herself. She thinks she has to hug, kiss, slurp, breathe on and practically talk nose-to-nose with people . She's part Italian... and even her own sister doesn't like how she invades people's personal space!!
Also, I am not sure about my cousin's vaccination status if she is fully boostered or not.
Secondly my 89 year old mom just got her COVID booster shot today, and she is still unvaxxed for the flu.
It will take about 3 - 4 weeks before she has some extra immunity from the COVID booster. She got the Johnson and Johnson shot way back in April 2021.
So with that said, I just want to keep my mom as safe as possible. I was pretty furious that my brother who lives several thousand miles away even tipped off my cousin about my mom being in the hospital.
BTW, my mom has advanced dementia and will be housed in the secure wing of the nursing home building.
Apart from annoyance, what's the issue with the nosy cousin? What harm results from her curiosity?
The more I thought about it, I don't see how I could really stop her from visiting the nursing home anyway. She uses multiple names and changes her appearance frequently. Add to that the staff turnover (particularly at the front entrance) and no one would really remember to be watching for her anyway and she could probably walk right in without anyone knowing she was not supposed to be there . Trying to ban one person may not really be enforceable, so you might want to give that some thought. The other thing I realized is that this visitor can aggravate just as much through a phone call - which would be even harder to put a stop to.