My boyfriends father had been staying with us and has been having severe memory problems. He gets a check every month and we ensured he received it and used it to do what he liked with it. Though he had asked if we needed rent money on many occasions we declined, when he ran out of money, we would help him and pay for his cigarettes and beer. Now one day he got drunk and was agitated and refused to come home with us, and he ended up walking back to a place (his so called friends) where they would take money for "rent" yet he's somehow broke two days after receiving his check. We bought him a phone and coincidentally his phone disappeared not even a week after receiving it and two days before he's supposed to receive his check. The people in question refuse to help him find his phone and say he paid rent. And that we are not allowed to see him. That they are pressing charges. And that apparently he said he wants nothing to do with his son. Which we know is not true. What can we do? They are taking advantage of this man and we haven't gotten him diagnosed professionally yet, and are scared for his wellbeing. How much can one possibly pay for rent without having their own bedroom!! They have him stay there all day and watch their daughters kids while they get paid to babysit and take his money for "rent "
Also, the next time you talk with the people who's taking advantage of him, have a audio recorder to record the conversation as additional proof of what you're reporting.
Good luck!!
Also, I think I'd go and have a talk with the police. Your boyfriend's father could have lost or mislaid his phone, but it could have been stolen or taken "in lieu of (more) rent." The checks also need following up.
If these people are stealing from the gentleman, then that is a matter the police can look into. And if, in the course of their enquiries, they observe that he is disoriented or incoherent they can report that back to APS and tie it in with what your boyfriend told them. I doubt if they'll need telling, but you might politely confirm with them that given the worries about the father's welfare include intimidation and possibly even false imprisonment, it is essential that they speak to him alone, without input from his "friends."
If you think that he's signing a POA to people who are not trustworthy of his care and finances, I might report what you know to Adult Protective Services. They may investigate to insure that he is not being taken advantage of. But, if he's still competent, he can make his own decisions, even if they are not very wise. I might consult with an Elder Law attorney to obtain all of your rights in the matter.