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Find a local caregiver support group preferably in person or Zoom if nothing else available, and make sure that when the aides are there that you're getting out doing things that bring you joy. And of course if needed talk to your doctor about going on an anti-depressant as that may help too. There is life after caregiving and it can be as wonderful as you make it. It may be time to think about having your husband placed in a memory care facility if his care is getting you so depressed. That way he will receive the 24/7 care he now requires and you can get back to just being his loving wife and not his burned out and depressed caregiver. Just some food for thought.
I suggest finding some way to turn outward, which you already took a step toward by posting here.
This time of year (winter) can make it even more tough. Is it possible to take a little walk? Feel the sun and wind, hear the birds, maybe say hello to a neighbor?
Could you meet a friend for coffee? Visit a greenhouse or flower shop?
Is there an art exhibit or museum nearby you could spend half an hour at? Or a daytime concert at a local place? Do you have any younger family you could catch up with?
Are there community resources — a knitting group, book club, regular card game, crafts, lectures? Or try a new kind of food? Are there low-commitment volunteer activities near you? Idealist.org has dozens of options near me, including ones you can do from home.
Or look into caregiver support groups, either in person or online. There are many others going through similar things. This message board is a great resource, but talking directly is better still.
If your husband is in hospice, the hospice provider should be able to provide you with suggestions.
best wishes to you. There is life all around you, no matter how hopeless and locked in things appear. There is fresh air and I think it would help.
Having written all this, I know my own mother would say — did say— “no” to all of it. It struck me as so sad, but it was her choice.
I second the idea of getting out of the house while one of your aides is there. What did you like to do before caregiving? Would it be possible to find a way to do it again, even in a limited way?
Can you get out of the house while an aide is there and do something for yourself? I am recovering from 2 back to back surgeries and haven't been cleared to exercise yet. I had a routine in my life and am feeling very depressed to not yet be able to resume a schedule. They weren't major surgeries. Today was a particular bad day for me. I am prone to depression and anxiety. I can get out of the house but there is nowhere I want to go to. Places I went to before seem overwhelming to me not to mention the apathy I feel. I wish more than anything I could get back to a form of exercise. I love my house but not all day every day.
If there is something that brings you joy perhaps you could try to do that while you have help at home. It can be difficult to stay home day after day. I think I have about 1 more week of waiting left.
I hope you find a solution sooner rather than later.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
And of course if needed talk to your doctor about going on an anti-depressant as that may help too. There is life after caregiving and it can be as wonderful as you make it.
It may be time to think about having your husband placed in a memory care facility if his care is getting you so depressed. That way he will receive the 24/7 care he now requires and you can get back to just being his loving wife and not his burned out and depressed caregiver. Just some food for thought.
I suggest finding some way to turn outward, which you already took a step toward by posting here.
This time of year (winter) can make it even more tough. Is it possible to take a little walk? Feel the sun and wind, hear the birds, maybe say hello to a neighbor?
Could you meet a friend for coffee? Visit a greenhouse or flower shop?
Is there an art exhibit or museum nearby you could spend half an hour at? Or a daytime concert at a local place? Do you have any younger family you could catch up with?
Are there community resources — a knitting group, book club, regular card game, crafts, lectures? Or try a new kind of food? Are there low-commitment volunteer activities near you? Idealist.org has dozens of options near me, including ones you can do from home.
Or look into caregiver support groups, either in person or online. There are many others going through similar things. This message board is a great resource, but talking directly is better still.
If your husband is in hospice, the hospice provider should be able to provide you with suggestions.
best wishes to you. There is life all around you, no matter how hopeless and locked in things appear. There is fresh air and I think it would help.
Having written all this, I know my own mother would say — did say— “no” to all of it. It struck me as so sad, but it was her choice.
I second the idea of getting out of the house while one of your aides is there. What did you like to do before caregiving? Would it be possible to find a way to do it again, even in a limited way?
Thinking of you.
If there is something that brings you joy perhaps you could try to do that while you have help at home. It can be difficult to stay home day after day. I think I have about 1 more week of waiting left.
I hope you find a solution sooner rather than later.