My parents moved to Florida from Texas less than 3 years ago to be near us now that we've retired. My Dad has been on ALZ meds for 6+ years. Even though they were barely capable of the maintenance, they bought a house. Dad had several bad falls in the home and Mom was overwhelmed with worry and effort, so we moved them into Independent Living in the area. It's a new facility with activities and a clubhouse with a dining room if they want a meal out, not a traditional AL. We did all the right things for the right reasons. Within days, my Dad is insisting he is going back to Texas and he wants Mom to go. We all know he is insisting for Mom to go because he is incapable or unwilling to take care of himself. Mom does everything for him, he doesn't cook, clean, or wash clothes. He also wants a hip replacement and will expect Mom to rehab him at home, she was a nurse. We moved them into IL to give Mom a break. It's smaller, has monthly housekeeping, no maintenance, activities, and options to eat at the dining room. He wants to buy a truck (can't get into one because of the hip), drive back to Texas, and have Mom co-sign and buy a 1970s fixer-upper (because of the price). Is he delusional or just stubborn? My sisters and I have helped Mom set up bank accounts in her name only and are beginning to split their money 50/50. We are all prepared for Dad to begin his solo journey.
How long has it been since Dad was evaluated by his doctor? You don’t seem too sure what his exact issues are. Ifhis meds haven’t been adjusted in six+ years, he needs to have those evaluated too.
In the end, if Dad is adamantly insisting on going, you’ll have to let him. But, Mom co-signs for NOTHING. If he leaves, he’s on his own. Totally.