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My Mom has CoPD and has declined in the last few days; low heart rate and low oxygen sats. She says she knows she's dying and has given me funeral requests. Does she in fact, really know if she is dying?
I too believe they feel/know that their time here with us is coming to an end. I have seen it with my MIL and then with my husband. Something in their overall appearance and demeanor changes, besides eating and drinking less and less. Since my husband could not speak anymore, it was the searching look, the moving of the hands. I just held his hands and kept talking to him when he became restless. I also told him if he was ready to go, not to worry about me, I would be fine, which made him visibly relax. He closed his eyes, and held on to my hand. It's one of the hardest thing to do, but I felt he needed to know - that it was alright and not to struggle. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
On one night my Mom called 2x me pleading for me to come over to hospice to be with her her cause she said that she didn't think that she would live very long and that she is dying soon. Very wrongly, I thought it was the alzheimers again, as many other people told me. I listened to the wrong people instead of listening to what my heart was telling me. But I was wrong. And it has been the bane of my life since then. She passed 4 days later. I spent the nights at hospice next to her bed after the call and was there holding her when she passed. So yes, I do believe that they have some kind of clue or whatever you want to call it that they know that they are going to pass soon. So please if you can, listen to what your parents tell you about these things. And try your best to be there when they tell you that. It may not be for several days or even right away, but I do believe that they know. My Mom did.
My mother kept asking to go HOME. I couldn't figure out I thought that it meant a home that she had in the past. then she started asking for her mom and dad, but she had many medical problems so I figured it was the alzheimers.But home was going to the other side to be with the Lord and family. Watch her legs and her body for blotches that is a sign of near death alos dehydration. If she doesn't want to eat or drink is another sign. It's different with everyone but maybe this will helo a little. Mom had hospice and I learned a lot working with them. They are fantastic. Yes, I believe they know when the end is near, their eyes change.
you might want to talk to her doctor about what the implications of the low O2 sat and low heart rate are. This might give you some insight into what is going on. Be well.
Sandelu, I have worked with a large number of elderly who have indeed been correct when they have said they were dying. I also worked with one woman who called me every Friday afternoon for two years to say goodbye because she "wouldn't be there on Monday" It's impossible to know what will actually happen in your mother's case. She is elderly and has a complicated health history and she, as will all of us, die at some point. It is likely comforting for her to tie up these last details and it may bring her a sense of peace. My suggestion is to make not of her wishes so you can refer to them when the time comes. In the meantime try not to panic and enjoy some extra time with her.
Sandelu, I wonder the same thing myself sometimes. We are planning family trips or just trips for my mom and she will say I just don't know. Then she says, I just don't know if I will be around.
Sometimes, I think my mom knows more than I do in that respect. I do my best to make sure she has what she is suppose to have to be healthy. But as my mom put it one day, she can still be healthy and pass on.
I am not happy about the thought, but my mom has outlived the age of her parents, 3 siblings and she has other siblings in far worse health. So I struggle with is mom saying it because of her age or because she knows she is dying.
I would allow your mom to have a say in her funeral, some parents plan them so the children do not have to worry about them.
I wish I had a concrete answer for you, but my mom says similar comments but my mom doesn't say anything about funeral arrangements just about not being here.
Good luck to you, I say a prayer everyday for all caregivers everywhere, they deserve gold stars in my book.
I am sorry to hear this, Sandelu. Your mother most likely does know that she is dying. She doesn't know exactly when it will be, but she knows it will be sometime in the near future. It is good that she is helping to make her final arrangements. It will make things easier for you. I hope you are able to just listen to her and enjoy your time with her while she is here.
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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My thoughts and prayers are with you.
It's impossible to know what will actually happen in your mother's case. She is elderly and has a complicated health history and she, as will all of us, die at some point. It is likely comforting for her to tie up these last details and it may bring her a sense of peace. My suggestion is to make not of her wishes so you can refer to them when the time comes. In the meantime try not to panic and enjoy some extra time with her.
Sometimes, I think my mom knows more than I do in that respect. I do my best to make sure she has what she is suppose to have to be healthy. But as my mom put it one day, she can still be healthy and pass on.
I am not happy about the thought, but my mom has outlived the age of her parents, 3 siblings and she has other siblings in far worse health. So I struggle with is mom saying it because of her age or because she knows she is dying.
I would allow your mom to have a say in her funeral, some parents plan them so the children do not have to worry about them.
I wish I had a concrete answer for you, but my mom says similar comments but my mom doesn't say anything about funeral arrangements just about not being here.
Good luck to you, I say a prayer everyday for all caregivers everywhere, they deserve gold stars in my book.