My 83 year old mother shows overwhelming favortism to my youngest brother, she screams at me when he is around and he screams at me as well. We grew up in a dysfunctional home and it is still dysfunctional. I recently moved back in my Mom's home but it only lasted a couple of weeks. My Mom still takes care of herself and my brother as well. I'm having a mental issue with the favortism, I do not know how to deal with the issue and it makes my heart bleed that I can not communicate my feelings with her or my brother. This has been going on every since I can remember I do not remember my childhood around 12 years old until now at 59 years old it has always been this way however now she and my brother has become violent and My mother says it's my fault. I need advise and help I don't know what to do.
In 2019, my mom and dad came to me and asked me to help pay their bills because my mother was obvious with dementia. I have been handling everything since. My mom kept getting hateful with me plus I was taking care of all the rentals and the grandchild and my three hair shops. Yes, I am sane 🥹 Next thing I knew, my brother and his minions put APS on me. The agent was an absolute bully and caused me extensive stress. This has been over a year ago and nothing has become of it because there was nothing to find or blame me for. I am doing the absolute best I know how.
I absolute feel for others that are going through this. My brother tells me my dead son hated me and then I am a lesbian (not that there's anything wrong with that) and that I can't get a man. Well who in the absolute hell has time? I thank God everyday that I am not like either one of them. There's a lot more to it than this, obviously but it certainly does suck how people act. I'm just amazed that they are related to me.
But you are also treating yourself badly by staying. You need to leave and not go back. If it is for financial reasons you are there, I hope you can find a solution that enables you to leave. It is not your fault they are violent towards you.. there is no scenario where that could be your fault. Please leave. Find a happy life and be the one who treats you well.. everything you wish for from them, all the love and acceptance you wish for.. you be the one to give it to yourself.