Sister lives 10 quick minutes away and doesn’t come to pickup mom or give me scheduled time off. She calls mom for 10 seconds a day. No real conversations. I’m sick of my sister but my mom has asked her to come see her and she still doesn’t come. Any suggestions?
Get yourself some help. Using mom's money, hire a caregiver. I started with a cleaning lady, then added a few hours a day a few days a week then slowly increased the hours until it was more of a full-time thing.
I'm quite sure this is very upsetting to you, but you will never 'make' or 'guilt' your sister into spending more time with your mom.
Are there other siblings, or are you the only one?
This is so difficult. You need time for you, time for your life.
Is your mother able to maintain basic tasks for herself? Is she ill? What are her issues?
It's tough, but you need to try to set boundaries, now. The longer a behavior is allowed, the worse it gets.
I would need to know more about your mom's health, etc., to really be able to give you some solid advice.
For now, however, realize you won't get help from your sister, period. Just take her out of the equation.
Blessings
I suggest you get someone to come in for help. If you mom has money use it for her care or if she has medicate your mom should get 30 hrs a week care.