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Don't even try to get your sister help. If she doesn't want to, you don't want her to either.

Get yourself some help. Using mom's money, hire a caregiver. I started with a cleaning lady, then added a few hours a day a few days a week then slowly increased the hours until it was more of a full-time thing.
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Please consult an Elder Law Attorney and request that he/she find you a reputable public guardian.
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Who has POA? That is the person who should be making decisions without expecting help from anyone else
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Your sister has made her involvement with your mother crystal clear. As little as possible is her preference.

I'm quite sure this is very upsetting to you, but you will never 'make' or 'guilt' your sister into spending more time with your mom.

Are there other siblings, or are you the only one?

This is so difficult. You need time for you, time for your life.

Is your mother able to maintain basic tasks for herself? Is she ill? What are her issues?

It's tough, but you need to try to set boundaries, now. The longer a behavior is allowed, the worse it gets.

I would need to know more about your mom's health, etc., to really be able to give you some solid advice.

For now, however, realize you won't get help from your sister, period. Just take her out of the equation.

Blessings
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There is nothing you can do, have 4 brother 3 that live close by. The only time they come by is if I shame them into it. Out of the 3 that live by 1 will show up.

I suggest you get someone to come in for help. If you mom has money use it for her care or if she has medicate your mom should get 30 hrs a week care.
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Try to see if your sibling is willing to help in any way possible. She might not be willing to do "hands-on" care but she might lighten your load by providing yardwork, laundry services, running errands, grocery deliveries, or other services - or pay for them. Of course, you may need to just come to terms with the fact that she will not help and that you can not make her. In that case, find help from other sources: other family members, friends, members of faith community, and hired help.
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Plenty of good answers here, but not anything you want to hear. Your sister is not interested, so drop it. You are the one who chose to entangle yourself, so…there you are, until a welcome end comes. May it be soon.
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