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my two sisters obtained a POA I have no problem with it however they immediately want to put her in Assisted living she is no threat I live with her since my sisters have POA does my mother have any say so if she goes or not she wants to live me I have been taking care of her for the last 10 yrs Does a POA have the right to put a elderly person in assisted care when she doesn't want to go?
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Please help me obtain guardianship papers for my husband ASAP. He has end
stage Alzheimer's . I want to do the right thing for him. I had no idea the hospital
wants me to let my husband stay in a room with no water or nourishment until he passes .Please help me!
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Dignity,you'll need a lawyer and a pocket full of money.If it's uncontested you should have no problem unless your husband passes away before the court date then it's a waste of time and money.
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Emergency Temporary Guardianship was granted to my sister. My mother is furious and does not want to see my sister. She is terrified whenever my sister comes to visit. Is my mother required to allow my sister to visit at her apartment in an assisted living location?
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Mother95, it should not be allowed to or not, but what's really best. Unless you think the guardianship was fraudulently obtained, work with your sister to see that Mom gets the care she needs, even if she does not want it and sincerely thinks she does not need it at all. You and I know that wishing things were different won't make it so, but for Mom thinking your sister is the cause of her problems may be easier than facing realities. If you and sis team up and even play good cop / bad cop if you need to, maybe Mom will be able to have a less anxious quality of life where she is.
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I have POA, Durable Medical and am the executor for my mom. My youngest sister is still so angry thst she wasn't named POA that she is becoming increasingly difficult in her demands regarding our mother's care. My sister lives 3,000 miles away (I live 15 minutes away) but she still aspires to take over. She has removed all the items from my mom's safe deposit box and taken the stock certificates, bonds and treasury bills back to her house. She removed my mom "cold turkey" from her Ativan for 52 hours without consulting any of mom's doctors. Mom had full blown withdrawal symptoms which could have been life threatening. She lied and told the local pharmacist that she was mom's caregiver and demanded a print out of mom's medication history, the prescribing doctors written orders and the dosages for all her meds (clearly a HIPAA violation besides lying). The final straw was when she completely cleared out mom's basement and either donated or trashed all mom's belongings that were housed downstairs saying mom needed to "get rid of everything now"! She has told several people that her goal is to move mom to a nursing home about an hour from her house 3,000 miles away. Mom is 90, completely incapacitated from vascular and fronto-temporal lobe dementia, and has the most amazing caregivers who are with her 24/7 so she can stay in the single family home where she has lived for 25 years. She recently told the main caregiver that she intends to take mom on a "vacation" the next time she visits and won't need the caregiver's help. We all believe she is planning to forcably take (kidnap) mom at that time. Do I need to get Guardianship or is a restraining/peace order enough? Is my POA and Durable Medical enough to block my sister from removing my mom from her home without having to go to court to get guardianship? Help! My sister may return as early as two weeks from now!
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Go see an attorney now. Sis is a thief and a vindictive bully, or she imagines that Mom would be all better if only HER care plan and not yours was in place. Is there anything realistic Sis could point to that could be a problem with having Mom receive care in the family home? Does Mom always have someone with her (it sounds from your description like she needs that?) Or was that basement hoarded or hazardous? Without guardianship or very strong documentation of Mom's incapacity, if Mom agrees to go with Sis and is then induced to sign new POA papers, your relationship with Mom is over. If Sis is as much in the wrong and as unreasonable as you have portrayed, you really need to take measures to stop her.

If Sis has any kind of a valid perspective and is not just off the deep end or being brutal, another option could be an elder mediation service. Has she ever voiced a reasonable perspective on any of this to you, beyond just wishing to be POA, which does not seem like enough of a grievance to go as far as she has, so you have more of an idea of where she is coming from?
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That's funny, here in Ohio my foster dad was never alerted as far as I know that guardianship was being processed. That's why it came as such a shock to us when things started happening that we didn't see coming. We were never warned it was coming, it just happened secretly without us ever knowing. It makes me wonder if someone had a secret agenda of just grabbing everything dad head which is exactly what ended up happening. You would've thought here in Ohio though they would've given the person a warning and a chance to contest it but sadly that never happened
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