I have a MIL, 81, has Parkinson's and dementia. It has been almost 2 months since she showered. She almost never changes clothes. Very confused.
We handle all the money. We, her son and myself, moved in with her shortly after her husband died. She has had Parkinson's for 18 years.
Can you direct me to agencies that would do personal care like twice a week for no cost to me?
Is your MIL still a fall risk because she doesn't consistently use her walker? (That was the case back in 2020.) If she falls, will you be blamed?
When will enough be enough? What will it take for your H to agree to put her in a facility? It seems like it's the case that H works while you are MIL's fulltime caregiver? Is that what is happening?
Im not saying that in itself is bad but you are the ones in charge of her money. If she doesn’t have money or if all the money in the world wouldn’t get her to
bathe, then it is time to get her to a higher level of care, which will be far better if she pays. Your ethical choices are to invest in doing that so you can keep the inheritance, or sell the house and leave if it’s no longer possible.