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My answer is, to support the person doing the caregiving.
If you are doing the caregiving, and being ordered around by a controlling person, choose: 1) Back them down, explain that you understand they have concerns and want to give their input, but there is a limit. 2) Allow them to do the caregiving if they are competent. 3) Is a person who is so controlling as to have the need to choose which market you shop really able to make good decisions for the person needing care?
Use boundaries. You are busy, and will talk to them another day. Ask them to do something specific. Have them pick up groceries at their favorite market and deliver them, at their expense. Thank them for their support-fibbing if you must.
Unless you, as caregiver, are receiving some support by talking to a family member, talk to them less and less. imo.
I agree with Barb. If sibling thinks she can do it better, then she can take the caregiving on. This was a discussion I just had with my daughter. Turning the tables.
"Mom, if you are going to constantly tattle on me, then maybe you should go live with oldest sibling" It will give me a much needed break".
My feeling is always, "if you think you can do better, have at it".
We had a poster here named NeedsHelpWithMom. You can search her posts. Her mom lived with her for 15 years, mom stirred the pot with brothers who did nothing and refused daughter's requests to hire outside help. When daughter set some boundaries, mom called brothers to tattle. Daughter said, so go live with them!
Mom left, now has to pay caregivers because Brother and SIL aren't doing all that work. Daughter has her life back!
Beware of parents who play their kids against each other. I would take a giant step back from what you are providing.
No, sibling has decided after more than thirty years they can take better care of person needing help. I do not think it is a matter of taking financial advantage of person in need but more a matter of sibling feeling that know better than anyone else and considers themselves the favorite. It has gotten where sibling questions anything I do. Wants me to report to them on any and everthing. Doctors visits to choice of which grocerly store we go to. Seems like sibling wants to start giving orders on how we give care and wants to be in charge of our all of us live our live. Part of the problem is that person receiving care will complain to sibling when I do not something they think I should do.
"Decided" by what authority? Has this person been granted Power of Attorney or guardianship? Has the person who is in need of care been declared incompetent?
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
If you are doing the caregiving, and being ordered around by a controlling person, choose: 1) Back them down, explain that you understand they have concerns and want to give their input, but there is a limit. 2) Allow them to do the caregiving if they are competent. 3) Is a person who is so controlling as to have the need to choose which market you shop really able to make good decisions for the person needing care?
Use boundaries. You are busy, and will talk to them another day.
Ask them to do something specific. Have them pick up groceries at their favorite market and deliver them, at their expense. Thank them for their support-fibbing if you must.
Unless you, as caregiver, are receiving some support by talking to a family member, talk to them less and less. imo.
"Mom, if you are going to constantly tattle on me, then maybe you should go live with oldest sibling" It will give me a much needed break".
We had a poster here named NeedsHelpWithMom. You can search her posts. Her mom lived with her for 15 years, mom stirred the pot with brothers who did nothing and refused daughter's requests to hire outside help. When daughter set some boundaries, mom called brothers to tattle. Daughter said, so go live with them!
Mom left, now has to pay caregivers because Brother and SIL aren't doing all that work. Daughter has her life back!
Beware of parents who play their kids against each other. I would take a giant step back from what you are providing.