I am so upset, my husband just told me my mother cannot live with us anymore or he will be the one to leave. He told me me that my mother living with us is just not working out and we have to tell her that she has to leave? I have to choose my mom or him.
i just found her messages ....
That little girl born this month will be expected (on the basis of present policy and practices) to earn in about 40 years enough to support herself, raise some children, provide them with increasingly expensive higher education (hoping she's got her own college loans paid off by then) and save enough to live on for twenty to thirty years after she stops working. What?! Since about 50% of people who reach age 85 have dementia, that 40 years of earning may well have had to contribute to the care of elderly parents who can't care for themselves (and who certainly did not save enough to cover the increasingly expensive medical expenses) and then face the inability to care for herself and/or her spouse.
Oh my goodness! This will be a huge challenge to our society. While I don't doubt that we will meet the challenge in the long run, I think the road to get there will be very bumpy, as many of us can testify right now.
I'll admit that threads that run 70+ posts and have a change in direction after a year can get a little confusing. It is nice to see a new question in the context of an earlier discussion, but it might be less confusing if people with similar questions start a new thread. Either way, we all muddle through.
Crowmagnum has been around for a long while on this site, and we appreciate his insight. He can jump in anytime and so can all of us. I do hope that Kinella has solved her problem by now.
Norene
I would ask him why and what you could do to compromise...marriage is always compromise. If he won't ---get to steppin!
If my husband would say that I would say "don't let the door hit you on the way out".