It's been a while since I've been in this forum. Some may remember that I have really struggled with Mom's "core personality" being completely unleashed now that dementia has taken a firm hold of her.
Back in May she had started throwing her plates and cups or banging then on the table at meals in the community dining room. Last week the the staff had reported some "decline in cognition" to the physician who, I think, ruled out UTI.
Today my brother visited her (I haven't been there since July. I needed a break. A Looonngg break. Brother reports he can tell that she's been kicking the wall and there's a hole in the wall too. No one on staff has contacted me about this. Bro says Mom said it's been there a while and happened while she was angry. That's all she said. Not that she did it, but that's the natural conclusion. She's in AL, they do not have Memory Care. I'm thinking it may now be time to place her in Memory Care.
Any thoughts?
I think I'll take the advice of, "they'll let you know when they decide she can't stay there anymore."
The facility isn't complaining about her behavior, so I don't think you should either.
Well done stepping back and letting the facility take care of her.
I KNOW I have no legal obligation to answer for her. But that ingrained "you owe your parents" thing was is Sooo part of my generations DNA is stuck on the tracks.
If not I would start there and then take things from there. No need to put the cart before the horse here.
And just FYI. your mom can still kick a hole in the wall in a memory care facility as well, so I wouldn't let that be the determining factor.