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Amy, that is so hard to have to deal with this and the loss of a close family member. My heart and prayers go out to you. The only other thought is having more of a cognitive evaluation done if you would be willing to consider getting a guardianship, which might or might not make it more feasible to insist on some of the common sense things you need her to be required to do. There may or may not be anything you can do about the whining and negativity at this point - personality plus widowhood plus depression she won't accept treatment for, plus dementia don't add up to anything good! Your devotion is a real gift even if she never seems to appreciate it for as long as she lives...
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Sometimes just being listened too and supported is all one needs. I've been learning that there may be things my dad chooses to do that I don't agree with or is best for him but I don't fight it. If he's not in danger, so be it. I'm not in control of it, so why get myself worked up. I don't fight every battle. I think to myself sometimes, "if he didn't live near me, like in the past, and I didn't know what was going on, he'd still survive. I can be responsible to my dad but not for him. That has saved my sanity many times over. Good to hear that things are somewhat better now.
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AmyGrace, my heartfelt sympathy to you and your family regarding your brother-in-law.

Maybe it is time technology went back to when there weren't any hearing aids but one would use an ear trumpet that one would hold up to their ear. Of course, a person couldn't do that all day, but only when someone wanted to talk to them.

Just think, these things are too big to roll up in tissues, or flushed down the toilet, or stuff in a pocket. They could come in all colors and patterns.

I am serious here, too many elders losing hearing aids because the the small size and the fact the elder wants the smallest size so no one would know they need a hearing aid. Maybe start a new fad among the elders with these trumpets :)
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I'm so sorry for your loss on your brother in law. Life doesn't seem fair at times. I guess we will figure out what all of this means some day. Hope so anyway. Also good luck on your 3 week trip. We went out of town for 7 days....well, supposed to be 7 days but was cut short because I needed to come home early due to my dad getting sick and no one else to take care of him in his apt. I'm the only one. I hope it's a wonderful get away.
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AmyGrace: Is Grace your middle name, if so it certainly fits you. You bear your burdens with a great deal of grace, patience and kindness. You are a role model for me and I bet others here, too. You are doing a great job with very difficult circumstances and getting up there in years yourself. We may not be the 'Greatest Generation', but we can claim to be the butt wipers for them, huh? :-)
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