she's trying to get money out of her telling me she needs checks so my mom can make donations to her church for starving children. Telling her my dad who passed told her to take care of her. Omg this is not true at all. But my mom is believing her. What can I do. I have POA. And I'm on accounts. Should I move banks
I did that with my Dad because he was forgetting to pay bills... his caregiver would find current bills in the paper recycling... oops. Dad was more than happy to let me handle all the financial stuff because he knew he just couldn't do it any more.... [sigh].
You could change banks, I did with my Dad mainly because parking became too much of an issue. Just make sure to keep the old accounts opened until any automatic payments are taken out or automatic deposits are put in have successfully transferred to the new bank.
Sounds like you think it is time for Mom to be in Independent Living/Assisted Living. Take Mom for a tour of places in your area, most will give you free lunch if you call ahead. Who knows, maybe one of Mom's lost long time friend might be living there.