She came up with the notion that two identical babies were born at the same time at the hospital; that two kids graduated at the same time at my high school; and so on. She often speaks to me about "my son Douglas" in the third person when talking to me and demands that I tell her where he is. I am now 68 years old (she's 88) and my hair is going gray, and my neck is starting to show signs of age. We live in the same place; we depend on each other. She can get very angry if I deny this notion, or if I insist that she show proof for her assertion--I could show her medical records and such, or even point out that the FBI has my fingerprints (I used to work for the post office). And this comes and goes--she will introduce me as her son Douglas to people we meet in public. I have given serious consideration to arranging conservatorship although I do not have the financial wherewithal for it.
It is such a relief when things finally fall into place and you can keep everything in order.
It's a long, hard road to get what you need.
Hopefully things will start to get better.
Huggers,
linda
As I understand your situation, you live with your Mom and you are her caregiver, right?
If you are her caregiver, why would the social worker contact APS on your Mom's behalf?
Do they think you are not doing an adequate job caring for her?
Do you have POA for her?
Are you thinking that, because she owns the house, you would have to sell it to pay for her nursing home/memory care before Medi-Cal would kick in?
I would talk to someone at your city's Senior Center for a referral to a low cost elder law attorney. I would think they can't override your POA by placing her in a facility without just cause.