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PS She won't think of seeing a therapist. She isn't interested in audio books. She doesn't want to learn how to operate the CD player. She won't meet anyone new because she doesn't see well enough ("if only I could see better" she repeats) Her memory has gotten much worse in the past few months which complicates things. It's beyond frustrating. We've seen an internist and a neurologist but there is nothing can they do for her. She is in good physical health other than her eyesight.
Hello there, I don't have an answer. I have the same problem though. Only for me, it's my 85 year old mother-in-law. She has mac deg too and she is also angry and depressed. Nothing pleases her. She doesn't think she is depressed or angry. She is self absorbed and vain. She has no spiritual/religious connection that I know of. She won't have anything to do with her grandchildren or great-grandchildren. She won't call her old friends because they should call her. She has been living with us since October 2009 she has been out of the house twice without my husband or myself during that time. She sits in her room watching TV most of the day or she plays solitaire. She is so bored but won't admit it. She no longer drives of course and she can't cook or operate the washing machine/dryer. She can bathe and dress herself, she cleans her room, her bathroom, she washes dishes alot and she folds clothes. She complains about everything and rarely has anything positive to say. I practice the "thumper rule" all the time. I was grateful to see your post here. Maybe sharing with someone who has the same struggle will help somehow. Hang in there. Do the next right thing. Unconditional love is important and prayer helps as well. Take care and God bless.
Mary, first of all what kind of macular does she have? My mother-in-law has the 'wet' kind, and her doctor was actually able to stabilize one of her eyes so she's not totally blind. Also, you have to let your mother mourn the loss of her eyesight. It's a terrible thing to not be able to see anymore, BUT it's NOT the end of the world. Depending on her personality she may go on and on forever crying if you don't reign her in at some point. If she's basically a 'half full' type person, then you're in luck. But if she's a negative person already, this is only going to make it worse. I can still take my m-i-l to the movie because she can still see that huge screen. Also I have started reading to her on a fairly regular basis. Because of her dementia she can't remember much anymore, so I always choose books that are really 'out there' and she actually remembers them.ha. There are low vision websites to find products that will help her with what she does have left in vision too. For my mother-in-law not being able to drive anymore was the biggest blow. It was the total loss of independence that nearly killed her. My one goal was to try to fill in with the things that she used to be able to do on her own so she could face the loss a lot easier. We have become road trip, movie & shopping buddies since her husband died and she lost her eyes and memory. I have to admit though, in the beginning I had to ask the Lord God Himself for a supernatural love for her, cause she wasn't that nice to me for the first 35 years of our marriage. But God met me where and when I needed Him, and now I can honestly say I love her.
You know your mother better than anyone if you have been seeing to her needs for many years. Most people need help when they are tired and feel they can't do much more. Hang in there and just talk to someone for support but stay with your mother and continue to see to her needs and give her the support that only you can.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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