I am a single mom of 5 2 of my children have high functioning asbergers. I asked my mom to move in with me to help me watch the kids while i work. When i originally asked her i told her that i could pay her per day if i was able to recieve help theough mrdd for childcare if not i knew i couldnt pay her much. Now i also said i wasnt going to charge her for rent or food or any incidentals if she watched them so i could work. Now my mom has been here for 3 years almost and is telling me she wants 50 dollars a day to watch them, which with my schedule works out to 700 a month , i barely bring in a thousand a month. So i said thats fine if she wants to charge me that much then she was going to have to start paying bills. Her comment was, "I wont pay for anything you would pay for if i wasnt here.".....that is everything i pay! I dont know what to do my son who is autistic keeps telling me he hates her and she yells at him all the time and i have to tell her to stop picking on the kids constantly when im here. Oh i almost forgot she sleeps in my bedroom and im on the couch. I don't want to kick her out on the streets but im done with all the stress of what she brings to my house. Any suggestions would help ty :)
Your mom being willing to watch the children for $50 per day was beyond generous.
What are the ages of your 5 children? I assume there is only one dad who is responsible to pay child support for these five children and alimony for you. Does he have the kind of job that makes enough money to pay all that he needs to be sending you? When my parents divorced back in the early 1960's, my dad sent mom over $300 per month. I never had any idea where it went for we lived in her parent's house and she worked. So, I have no idea what current child support payments and alimony is like today.
Are any of them in school this school year?
I have no idea what to say other that to repeat that you need to go after the deadbeat dad.
It seems if you are paying $50 / day and $700 a month you are working 14 days a month, if you are working a typical 8 hour day, you are paying mom $6.25/ hour for watching 5 children.
Sounds like mom may be overwhelmed, lack the patience or maybe the temperament to deal with care taking for special needs children. This is no small task.....5 kids!!!
You may need to look for another option for child care. Grandparents make great occasional sitters, but to make this their responsibility day in and out may not be a good solution for her, you or the kids.
You will work your way to a better solution for mom, be patient!
HUGS, ! And good for you!