I had a painful and extremely vivid "fake" dream last night - in that - it never happened but it's still a nightmare. In that dream, my mom left her walker and then fell once she found me and I got so angry with her.
1. Thank God it was just a dream.
2. I never yelled at her in real life. Maybe I fussed but never yelled like I did in my dream.
3. In this dream, for whatever reason (I think I went to a public bathroom), I had to leave her alone for a few minutes and next thing I knew she tried to find me without her walker and then she fell when she found me.
I was so angry with her in my dream! Then, I was angry that she waited to fall right in front of me and (hate to say it) left me to sort it out.
Long story short, it was just a dream. If it had been real/true, she would've been in a wheelchair. I never would've taken her somewhere, no matter how pretty, if it required her to walk long or far. Still, it's odd.
It's odd because sometimes I can't even remember what I ate yesterday and yet this dream of her falling and me yelling at her was so vivid, when none of it happened. I'm usually crazy but in a fun way. This was not fun at all. I canceled attending an event today because I'd have these morbid thoughts and knew I wouldn't be fun at all. Oi. Thanks for listening.
less in the county,state and federal levels but take advantage of what you can...as stated above no studies have been done in this area..I doubt anyone of even considered the stress other than caregivers..working in the medical profession for 30 plus years even professionals can "snap"..we all need breaks..we are doing no one any good by going beyond "burn out"..I have seen it and experienced it..please take advantage of any resources to help..God bless and good luck
As for getting a respite from the care, I am all for that but I do not have the siblings to give me a break so my breaks come in small doses throughout the day when I sit down with a good cup of coffee, watch ducks on the pond, or read something. If one can't get a break for a few days, then catch any little moment you can as even these little short moments of a break add up