Mother fell and broke her hip last summer and had to move to assisted living. She has not regained her ability to walk mostly due lack of motivation which she calls fear. Additionally she has urinary incontinence and sometimes fecal incontinence when straining.
Her baby brother (79) passed away Saturday. I am struggling to try to get her to the funeral in Colorado Springs. She requires assistance with almost everything and we do not have family or additional support. I am her primary caregiver and I work full time. I am already burnt out. I don’t think I can manage it. Any suggestions?
As far as travel, I agree with most everyone here - absolutely not. It's too much stress on her AND yourself. Even with a hired companion taking her, the stress is too much on your mother. And if your mother wants to challenge that, have her doctor help make the decision; I'm sure the doctor will agree to 'no travel'.
DebraJoy already offered the idea I came up with, and I concur - use FaceTime (or something similar) by mobile phone. Or have the funeral video taped, and have some of the attendees offer their input into the camera to your mother: (ex: 'Sorry you couldn't be here for the service, but we understand... the service was lovely... your brother will be greatly missed... ) - that will help your mother be a part of the moment, and others can express their sympathies creatively into the camera as well.
Best of luck!