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Mom2Mom - Progress not perfection, and you have progress. This is better than where you were, and there is a light at the end of the tunnel even though you can't see how far away it is.

I'd get 24 hour care. You need a corner of your life back. Take all the help from hospice that is offered. And at work - it's a lot easier to deal with "mom's on hospice" than a person who has an aging parent for whom there could be 10 more years!

You will get through this well.
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Just checking in M2M to see how your mom is doing?
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I couldn't go through all the postings however, I would go with the closer because you will be going regularly - what if 'good place but far' has a change of ownership? - if you are there 5 to 7 times a week then they will be on their toes always - I advise [from another person's & my own experience] that you change arrival times so that you come in morning/ mid afternoon/ evening etc - so they can't get mom 'up & pretty' for 3:00 tues because you come irregularly - worth taking a long lunch or have other family members help you with this effort

HOW OLD ARE YOU? - I don't ask this out of hand rather I know as someone about to be 68 & taking care of both mom & dad in separate facilities [they have the same name & chance of med files mix up is nil when they are apart] - if you are 35/45/55/65/ those answers are different as this makes a whale of a difference

I can't wait to have them closer - dad now 16 minutes not 3 1/2 hours has helped me so much however I am now doing more for him as he needs this but the percentage of time in travel has gone down so much - now I see him twice a week instead of once a month but actual time is slightly less - you have to weigh the pros & cons on YOUR OWN CIRCUMSTANCE - no other person wears your shoes - hope this helps - hugs to you from me
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Mom2Mom,
Sorry for the loss of your Mom.
Feeling sad.
At the same time, you got your life returned to you.
You are a gracious person, deserving of all that is good.
Good for you for the escort of your Mom to the end.
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I think, ultimately, that the facility should be all about your mom and her care. Although the temptation is strong to make it more convenient for visits, I think that issue is secondary to mom's care and comfort. A good facility will provide her care and provide socialization and stimulating activities. Even if mom does not want to participate in scheduled activities, there should be regular room visits and opportunities for mom to interact with staff and residents. Also, in room activities should be available. If mom is provided these things, she will not miss the daily visits from you, or if she does, not as much. In my opinion, always go for the highest quality you can afford especially when it comes to the care of your loved ones.
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I think further comments & opinions about the original question can only be helpful to others, however I'd like to inform posters that the Mom2Mom's mother had sepsis that didn't respond to treatment, wasn't able to go into a facility for long (or maybe at all, I don't recall exactly), went on hospice care, and has passed away. 

Many threads like this go on here on AC for years after the OP posted the question. I'm not trying to police the thread as much as I'm feeling sympathy for a member who lost their mother yesterday. ♡
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