I submit this question simply with honesty. After caring for both MIL and FIL for two years..........the thing that gags me is "teeth." Yes, worse than poop for me. My FIL (now deceased) had false teeth. He would pry them from his mouth dripping with saliva and hand them to me. Sure, I put gloves on, etc...but for some reason those teeth really triggered my gag reflex.
Now my MIL is unable to brush her teeth and I have to do it.. or things get really stinky. It is the hardest thing I do. Anyone else comment on one particular thing that she/he finds "stomach upsetting"?
Hammer toes,bunions,deep corns & wants me to clip toenails.
Coughing phlem into tissue & pulling tissue apart to look at it.
Blowing nose and wiping on her nitegown or clothing.
Picking at her face and leaving huge marks on it.
Coughing phlem into her hand and staring at it while it drips. OMG.
Her legs are so messed up with purpora from drugs and paper thin skin drooping.
Smearing dog crap on white tile saying she cleaned it up.
Splatter on both toilet seats & wont clean them. (I refuse to).
Scratching till bleeds on sheets & wont let me change them. (They are not dirty).
Wiping her phlem on sofa & dog licks it. Kleenex is right there.
There is more but I might have to go rest my stomach.
im the vlad putin of family carers . shake your right hand and smile and shiv ya in the brain stem with my left . ( so to speak )
Hate is a hard horrible word that is filled to nothing with nothing but negativity.
We can be angry, frustrated, down, depressed, but hate is a form of abuse. (IN MY OWN OPINION). We need to rise above those that hate, and show them love.
Personally, I admire the person that has a " hate" but who has the guts to get up each day, face the object of hate, put the hate aside and complete the task to make someones life better. Thank goodness for these folks!