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When I asked this question, in the back of my mind was what happened to my mother. She signed a DNR when she was in her mid-eighties. When she was 90, she clearly had dementia. She'd had some heart issues, so I thought her heart would take her out before the dementia did. Well, I was wrong. She was in and out of hospice for more than 2 years. Her heart kept ticking along. She died at 95 after five years of dementia suffering, almost unrecognizable as a person. The DNR didn't save her from that, although she thought it would if she developed dementia.
My mother had broken ribs when she was in her 40s. They took a long time to heal even though she had youth on her side. She had a cough at the time, and every time she coughed it was excruciating pain for her. Finally both the cough and the ribs healed. When she signed the DNR in her eighties, part of her thinking was that she didn't want to go through that again as an elderly person after resuscitation. She was hoping for a pain-free death.
Thanks for asking this question. It reminded me of my mum making the decision to have a DNR in place, while she still had capacity, and made me realise that my stepdad hasn't talked about a DNR at all.
I broached the subject with him when I visited yesterday. He was clearly uncomfortable. I said that he didn't need to make any decisions right now, but I wanted him to consider it while he was in a position to.
I said that I thought a good option was to have it in place just in case he no longer has capacity in the future. I said that if he wants everything done to save his life now, knowing that he'll be able to deal with the outcomes of CPR, then he should state that. But to consider that if he does suffer some kind of cognitive decline, whether he'd be able to cope with pain and struggling to breathe if he doesn't understand why. He felt better when I went through the options and explained that getting a DNR ready now, while he's in a position to do so, doesn't mean that his life wouldn't be saved by CPR, if necessary. He has a heart condition, so this is a real worry for him.
He felt that if he was no longer himself, that having CPR might not be a good option. He saw that the patients with dementia, who were in the same ward as Mum during her several hospital admissions, couldn't cope with pain and their confusion made it more difficult to care for them. He doesn't want to be in that position.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I broached the subject with him when I visited yesterday. He was clearly uncomfortable. I said that he didn't need to make any decisions right now, but I wanted him to consider it while he was in a position to.
I said that I thought a good option was to have it in place just in case he no longer has capacity in the future. I said that if he wants everything done to save his life now, knowing that he'll be able to deal with the outcomes of CPR, then he should state that. But to consider that if he does suffer some kind of cognitive decline, whether he'd be able to cope with pain and struggling to breathe if he doesn't understand why.
He felt better when I went through the options and explained that getting a DNR ready now, while he's in a position to do so, doesn't mean that his life wouldn't be saved by CPR, if necessary. He has a heart condition, so this is a real worry for him.
He felt that if he was no longer himself, that having CPR might not be a good option. He saw that the patients with dementia, who were in the same ward as Mum during her several hospital admissions, couldn't cope with pain and their confusion made it more difficult to care for them. He doesn't want to be in that position.