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Morven, when it comes to someone being addictive to alcohol there isn't much doctors can do if the person themselves do not want to stop drinking. I see from your profile that your hubby has been in the hospital twice for alcohol related medical situations.
Has hubby tried talk-therapy?
Also, I remember long ago hearing about a certain drug that if taken and the person tries to drink alcohol it will make them sick.... thus make the person not want alcohol any more. The issue would be trying to make sure the person uses the medication as prescribed.
Drinkers know the danger of over drinking and still drink. Smokers know the danger of smoking and still smoke. No one can say or do anything to make them stop. No one has that power.
Your husband knows yet he still drinks. I'm sure you have told him countless times about his drinking, yet he still drinks. He is not going to listen to anyone. If and when he wants to stop, or when he can't drink anymore, he'll stop.
I'm sorry about your situation. The only recommendation i have is for you to join a support group for people whose spouses/relatives are alcoholics.
You can scream, yell, cry, threaten--whatever, to 'tell' an alcolholic of the dangers of their alcoholism, yet until they take it upon themselves to stop drinking nothing will change.
I have a dear young friend who has taken over her father's finances and basically, runs his life because he is killing himself with drinking. She is not doing it to be controlling or hateful--she doesn't want to lose another parent to alcohol abuse--and she deeply loves him. She knows, that despite her 'control' he is still obtaining the drink of his choice and all she is doing is staving off the inevitable.
He did ask for her help--so she isn't overstepping her bounds--people have the right to drink themselves to death if they want. She is being loving and firm.
But in the end--this man is not dumb. I don't think ANYONE thinks drinking to excess 24/7 is a good idea. But we are stupid animals, really, and it takes self control that many don't possess to care for ourselves.
SO, no dr EVER talked to your dad about alcohol abuse? I find that hard to believe.
People have known for many, many years that alcohol and tobacco abuse are 2 main causes of cancers and early deaths. It's NOT the Drs job to tell your dad something that is so patently obvious.
I'm sorry for you--but don't blame the drs. Did you talk to him? Followed up with a ton of articles and background info?
The responsibility for not drinking lies solely with your father.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Has hubby tried talk-therapy?
Also, I remember long ago hearing about a certain drug that if taken and the person tries to drink alcohol it will make them sick.... thus make the person not want alcohol any more. The issue would be trying to make sure the person uses the medication as prescribed.
Your husband knows yet he still drinks. I'm sure you have told him countless times about his drinking, yet he still drinks. He is not going to listen to anyone. If and when he wants to stop, or when he can't drink anymore, he'll stop.
I'm sorry about your situation. The only recommendation i have is for you to join a support group for people whose spouses/relatives are alcoholics.
I have a dear young friend who has taken over her father's finances and basically, runs his life because he is killing himself with drinking. She is not doing it to be controlling or hateful--she doesn't want to lose another parent to alcohol abuse--and she deeply loves him. She knows, that despite her 'control' he is still obtaining the drink of his choice and all she is doing is staving off the inevitable.
He did ask for her help--so she isn't overstepping her bounds--people have the right to drink themselves to death if they want. She is being loving and firm.
But in the end--this man is not dumb. I don't think ANYONE thinks drinking to excess 24/7 is a good idea. But we are stupid animals, really, and it takes self control that many don't possess to care for ourselves.
SO, no dr EVER talked to your dad about alcohol abuse? I find that hard to believe.
People have known for many, many years that alcohol and tobacco abuse are 2 main causes of cancers and early deaths. It's NOT the Drs job to tell your dad something that is so patently obvious.
I'm sorry for you--but don't blame the drs. Did you talk to him? Followed up with a ton of articles and background info?
The responsibility for not drinking lies solely with your father.