Nursing home and caregiver neglect.

My mom had my husbands dpoa of my dad revoked illegally - never told the attny that his diagonosis was dementia and attny never ordered exam even though you would think he would wonder why dad in an asst living in a count 1.5 hrs away from her.........we removed him when we found him near death in a motel after mom had once again kicked him out........for ahwhile she had me banned from visitation but got in contact with the owner of the nursing home who owns over 500, La Vie and informed them that a dpoa cannot restrcit visits from a daughter unless he is in a facilty privately owned not one receiving medicare/medicaid (quoted obra legislation of 1987 ) but Dad is not being taken care of.......ok he is on a honey thickened liquid - water, juice and milk all have about the same consistency when the start.........I have seen honey thickened milk........you can drink it.........this place is giving him the honey thickened water, drinkable, juice, drinkable and then the milk is like pudding........if you tip the glass nothing will come out...........two nurses agreed with me..........i put a note on his tray "paper" tonite that he had not been given his cranberry juice which was noted on the paper nor had he been given any milk as was noted........had a place for dislikes.........i wrote in hates honey ice tea.........the first aide who allowed us to take over feeding him was fine with the fact that i brought in "honey" thickened milk - i bought thickener at walgreens and added it to milk accordingly per instructions........was thick but drinkable.........the aide that picked up the tray got very haugty over my notation that Dad would like Milk that he can drink = when we were leaving she told us we should not be bringing him anything to drink in case he chokes.....two nurses on my husbands side of family and I have a cousin who was a full colonel nurse in the army..........I know what I am doing but am treading on thin water as i am not dpoa - however mom also has a huge note taped to wall to put in Dads dentures (?) and his hearing aides every morning - according to the nurses, his hearing aides are not even there.....he also only has reading glasses, not prescription so cannot see but a blur on tv and cannot hear it all - why he is wearing dentures is beyond me as he is on pureed diet and his mouth is a haven for bacteria........head nurse or no head nurse she is not going to tell me that he is getting honey thicked milk - in a prior nursing home that is what he was getting and it was not pudding nor did it smell like pudding........I do have a paper that Dad signed before his stroke allowing me medical info from va which is where his hearing aides originally came from...........will they furnish me with another pair if I advise them that no one seems to know where they are? And how do I get an eye dr in there to see him?? I guarantee they stopped giving him his glaucoma drops a long time ago because mom is just waiting for him to die....don't want to deal with dcf as my sister told them outrageous stories about me that caused investigation to my character..........elder affairs?? Senior Services?? He is a WWII vet and it also angers me that mom has not put him on the waiting list even for the VA home but instead has him in this subpar facility where there is only room for one visitor to sit down.......I do not believe this facility has a policy on bringing n foods if they are pureed (I don't puree any differently than they do except puree him the food he at least liked) and to me, it is inhumane to not give him drinkable milk - he is not on pudding diet......also Dad likes hot cocoa.......prev facility just thicked w packets........turns out this place delivers the products pre made so the only way Dad could hve hot cocoa is if i buy packets and bring them in and then request hot cocoa but advise them that the thickening packets are in his room.........any ideas of where or whom to turn to for help would be appreciated..............