There is so much. Especially since my brother is staying in the house and I am in charge of his special needs trust. The house and car might end up without insurance for a while. I don't know if it's my fault or if I was told I needed the papers from court saying I'm executor before I can go further. Husband expects me to take care of everything myself. He will do the same when his father dies. Brother just asks me questions and tells me what to do. He doesn't talk to strangers unless he has to. He isn't helping. Barbara
And as JB suggests, you need to make a checklist and prioritize. There are information gathering stages, action, and resolution stages. Identifying them helps to keep it all in perspective.
I also dragged home box after box of financial paperwork trying to get everything in order. I found using 3-ring binders helped me keep more organized. I was able to set up on-line accounts for just about everything so I can oversee what is happening.
I can't imagine how complicated everything is especially needing to work through a special needs trust like what you are doing. Whew, that does sounds like a lot of work.
When my Dad passes, I know I will be knocking on his Elder Care attorneys door for help.... I rather pay something to sort this all out.