Are you sure you want to exit? Your progress will be lost.
Who are you caring for?
Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
Acknowledgment of Disclosures and Authorization
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
✔
I acknowledge and authorize
✔
I consent to the collection of my consumer health data.*
✔
I consent to the sharing of my consumer health data with qualified home care agencies.*
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
Mostly Independent
Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
Remember, this assessment is not a substitute for professional advice.
Share a few details and we will match you to trusted home care in your area:
If you've been keeping up with the ongoing episodes of "Tinyblu's Terrible Life" you know that the last month has been a nightmare with moving Dad to a new, less expensive ALF near my house (which is turning out to be a BAD decision) and the "misuse" investigation I endured with the VA.
Anyway, I've been reinstated as Dad's fiduciary, but that won't happen before his next ALF payment is due. The ALF REQUIRES automatic draft in order for me to receive the negotiated discounted rate, but the silly appointee refuses to complete the paperwork.
I informed the ALF of this misfortune and offered to fill out the automatic draft form for the portion that comes out of my bank account, but they won't accept that. Instead, they are going to make me pay $494 more because I won't do the ACH form for the full amount.
...so I'm kinda stuck.
Any suggestions on what I can do. I HATE being caught in the middle of all this. Once again, my hands are shaking uncontrollably and I'm all jittery. Hopefully I can reel this back in so I can work... another day.... more nonsense.
...and this is why I keep entertaining the idea of finding a house and taking Dad in myself... Once I'm reinstated and my lease ends, it's not totally off the table... We'll see...
Tinyblu, I have an idea. How about turning over his guardianship type care to the state with a state-appointed guardian? The only reason I did not do that with mthr is that she has serious assets we wanted to protect ( Partial reparations for abuse suffered.).
Once you are relieved of the burden of financial care, then you can simply visit as the daughter. APS *suggested* it to me because of the abuse in her background before they knew of her assets and our expertise in that area. If you were abused as a child, you **should not** have direct care of your abuser. Please take that possibility off the table for your own sanity and safety.
Pay the extra money and make a copy of that payment, get a receipt, and charge your dad's account for that by reimbursing yourself for that amount. It's his expense, and you are loaning him money. He can even have a written loan agreement in place that you get him to sign, very simple on a piece of paper, handwritten. His scribble. It's ok.
Tiny, as Surprise suggests, there are alternatives. My first thought is why waste time on whoever isn't completing the form and go straight to the top exec, and making it clear that whoever is responsible needs to get on the ball and complete the forms NOW.
Make it also clear that you're not pleased and will consider an alternative placement if they can't handle something as simple as completing a form.
This is not a criticism, but have you ever thought of taking some training in assertion, maybe even a Martial Arts course to help build your confidence? My father taught us some Judo moves when I was a teenager; it helped build my confidence. I'm even thinking of taking Karate as I've seen that caregiving can seriously deplete and affect one's self esteem.
From what I remember of your history, I suspect that your father was a major consumer and threat to your own self esteem.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Once you are relieved of the burden of financial care, then you can simply visit as the daughter. APS *suggested* it to me because of the abuse in her background before they knew of her assets and our expertise in that area. If you were abused as a child, you **should not** have direct care of your abuser. Please take that possibility off the table for your own sanity and safety.
Pay the extra money and make a copy of that payment, get a receipt, and charge your dad's account for that by reimbursing yourself for that amount. It's his expense, and you are loaning him money. He can even have a written loan agreement in place that you get him to sign, very simple on a piece of paper, handwritten. His scribble. It's ok.
Make it also clear that you're not pleased and will consider an alternative placement if they can't handle something as simple as completing a form.
This is not a criticism, but have you ever thought of taking some training in assertion, maybe even a Martial Arts course to help build your confidence? My father taught us some Judo moves when I was a teenager; it helped build my confidence. I'm even thinking of taking Karate as I've seen that caregiving can seriously deplete and affect one's self esteem.
From what I remember of your history, I suspect that your father was a major consumer and threat to your own self esteem.
Stand your ground.