I overheard a nurse tell a 97 year old al resident it was time to get up and get dressed. Can’t sleep 24 hrs. She asked for breakfast and was told it’s too late for breakfast. You should have been down there on time. It’s now 8:23 am on Dec 22nd. Is it not the responsibility of staff to make sure she is up so she can get to breakfast on time? She just had to go with out. She asked for a boxed food or anything. I don’t know if this is something to be turned in or should I mind my own business. Thank you
whatever the rule is, they could have kindly given her something to eat.
i’m a lawyer; and it’s the same in law…some laws are unjust…laws change all the time (what’s considered moral/immoral changes throughout human history)…a kind judge can do an act of kindness, interpret things compassionately…
whatever the rule is in that AL, it was mean not to give a human being (97!) something to eat for breakfast.
ALFs and all other facilities are often/sometimes very short staffed now due to covid-19 in many parts of the country. I think there are definite differences in facilities This would NOT have happened in my brother's assisted living. If there was a mistake and someone missed breakfast there was a snack room with cereals and fresh fruits, etc, as well as snacks offered according to diets throughout the day.
You do not mention your relationship. Are you POA? Familiar with her care on a daily basis? Aware of any medications that might cause her to be a late riser?
Much of how you move forward depends on these questions.
Instead of thinking in terms of “turning in”, why not ask a staff person what the policy is for missing meals. If the woman involved was staying in bed too much (she actually did that), she was encouraged to stay awake and out in the day room by being rewarded for doing so, by choosing a desired TV show, reading aloud to other residents, etc.
What is your relationship to this 97 y/o resident?
I think this resident can likely speak for herself and lodge a complaint of her own if she so desires. I know my parents would have kicked up a royal fuss if they were treated that way in the ALF where they resided.
It's just depressing.
I would get the name of this "nurse" and report her. I would call the ombudsman and Medicare because you know this isn't the only lack of care taking place by this witch.
But I agree that the kitchen should have something.
I can't believe that 8:23 is too late for breakfast. The person was probably an aide. I would talk to the head nurse and ask if what you heard was true. This resident is paying big bucks to be there.