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No. You are not an unpaid servant. You can’t expect to take over MIL’s medical, financial and legal issues just because you are caring, but you certainly should have an important voice in the discussions. If that doesn’t happen, don’t keep on keeping on.
Nobody should be "held responsible" for caring for anyone except a minor child they adopted or gave birth to. It can be (and often is) argued that adult children have an obligation to care for the parents that cared for them in their younger years, but even if you share this belief, it doesn't extend to in-laws.
A more important question is: How did you get into this situation and how do you get out of it?
The person who is responsible to take care of MIL is MIL. After that it’s who she can afford to pay or who is willing to do it. Parkinson’s disease can include dementia but doesn’t always. Has your MIL given a POA to other family members? If so, they need to step up. How long have you been doing this? Is your MIL 44 or was that a mistake on your bio? If your MIL is 44 then you must be very young. Are you living in MILs home? That still doesn’t justify you as her caretaker if you don’t agree to it. And if she is 44 then you need to run like the wind and live your own best life doing what you aspire to do and not what MIL’s family has chosen for you. If you are trying to care for her while raising a family, that isn’t fair to anyone including your MIL. As hard as it might be to say no now, it will not get easier. Parkinsons requires long term planning for health care. What implications have been made to you in return for you caring for your MIL? Come here to vent anytime. When you say no it will create a shift that has to be worked through. There will be ups and downs. Expect push back. Good luck.
I believe if you are caring for someone you have the POAs. If she has children then they should be involved in her care. Are you married to her son, what does he say.
Who is holding you responsible? No way are you responsible for in-laws. And if you decide that you will do it if fairly paid, then be sure you have the legal authority to accomplish the task. You are not a serf.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Certainly not by the 3 adult children or 4 grandchildren, or your husband.
Only take this on if YOU WANT TO. AND THAT YOU'RE GOING TO BE PAID FAIRLY.
Slavery is illegal.
A more important question is: How did you get into this situation and how do you get out of it?
Parkinson’s disease can include dementia but doesn’t always. Has your MIL given a POA to other family members? If so, they need to step up.
How long have you been doing this?
Is your MIL 44 or was that a mistake on your bio?
If your MIL is 44 then you must be very young.
Are you living in MILs home? That still doesn’t justify you as her caretaker if you don’t agree to it.
And if she is 44 then you need to run like the wind and live your own best life doing what you aspire to do and not what MIL’s family has chosen for you.
If you are trying to care for her while raising a family, that isn’t fair to anyone including your MIL.
As hard as it might be to say no now, it will not get easier.
Parkinsons requires long term planning for health care.
What implications have been made to you in return for you caring for your MIL?
Come here to vent anytime. When you say no it will create a shift that has to be worked through. There will be ups and downs. Expect push back. Good luck.