Are you sure you want to exit? Your progress will be lost.
Who are you caring for?
Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
Acknowledgment of Disclosures and Authorization
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
✔
I acknowledge and authorize
✔
I consent to the collection of my consumer health data.*
✔
I consent to the sharing of my consumer health data with qualified home care agencies.*
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
Mostly Independent
Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
Remember, this assessment is not a substitute for professional advice.
Share a few details and we will match you to trusted home care in your area:
I am the caretaker for my mother in home hospice. I live in her house, in a good neighborhood and a built in pool. She covers all expenses (bills food, personal) plus $500 cash per month. Am I asking too little?
You didn’t mention your son and his gf helping out in any real measure.
If that is in fact the case, and assuming they are adults, consider your arrangement paid as your mom is supporting both the freeloading adult you gave birth to as well as his current sex partner.
So what you're trying to say is that your mother is well off? And only paying you $500 a month to live in her home and to do all the caregiving for her, and she's unable to walk (based on your profile)? If that's what you're saying/asking, then yes, I think you should be paid more than $500 a month because the household bills don't count towards YOUR salary. You should be paid a fair wage for the caregiving duties you are performing, and $500 a month for live in caregiving duties is NOT fair wages. I would venture to guess more like $4000 a month is closer to fair wages, but others with more experience/knowledge than I will be answering that question in short order, I'm sure.
In some circumstances, people seem to think that 'giving you a roof over your head' and a few dollars spending money is more than adequate for 24/7 caregiving, which is laughable really, when you think about it. Were you to go out and get a job doing this, you would NOT be paid $500 a month which computes to $125 a week to work HOW many hours???? Come on!
According to Google, the average cost of a live in caregiver is $15K per month. If you were caregiving on an hourly basis and not living with your mother, your average pay would be $18.38 per hour in California in 2022. You do the math. Obviously, I was WAY off saying $4K a month was a good wage for you! Sorry about that :)
Good luck standing up for yourself and getting paid a fair wage for all you do for mom!
Yes, she's well off, middle class, not rich. My personal expenses are only about $200, the rest is house related, groceries etc. My son his girlfriend, my sister her husband also live there rent free. (Mom's idea. ) My sister doesn't help much because she's dealing with cancer treatment. Her husband does the house and pool maintenance but doesn't help with mom. Mom gets a pension and makes too much for medicaid so I can't get paid by the state. I should at least get that much.
I think a lot of people are taking your mom for granted.
Your son and GF should be paying rent, your sister and hubby should be paying rent (reduced to account for the work he's also doing), and you should be paid more depending on what you're actually doing in terms of caregiving.
You should have a proper agreement in place for all parties involved.
I don't think you're being taken advantage of. If your mother is receiving hospice care at home then at least you have some help. Do you stand to inherit her house in the good neighborhood with the built-in pool? If the answer is 'yes' then do what you have to do. If mom is also covering your personal expenses in addition to the $500 a month, that's a pretty sweet deal. Instead of asking for more money for yourself, that money can be spent on additional aide hours to give you some respite time.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I would think there are more than enough people to pitch in so you do not have to do so much.
Unusual situation, what happens when she passes? Who will provide for everyone?
I hope that you are planning ahead, where will you work? How will you provide for yourself?
That bothers me more than you only be paid $500 a month.
If that is in fact the case, and assuming they are adults, consider your arrangement paid as your mom is supporting both the freeloading adult you gave birth to as well as his current sex partner.
In some circumstances, people seem to think that 'giving you a roof over your head' and a few dollars spending money is more than adequate for 24/7 caregiving, which is laughable really, when you think about it. Were you to go out and get a job doing this, you would NOT be paid $500 a month which computes to $125 a week to work HOW many hours???? Come on!
According to Google, the average cost of a live in caregiver is $15K per month. If you were caregiving on an hourly basis and not living with your mother, your average pay would be $18.38 per hour in California in 2022. You do the math. Obviously, I was WAY off saying $4K a month was a good wage for you! Sorry about that :)
Good luck standing up for yourself and getting paid a fair wage for all you do for mom!
Your son and GF should be paying rent, your sister and hubby should be paying rent (reduced to account for the work he's also doing), and you should be paid more depending on what you're actually doing in terms of caregiving.
You should have a proper agreement in place for all parties involved.
Do you stand to inherit her house in the good neighborhood with the built-in pool?
If the answer is 'yes' then do what you have to do. If mom is also covering your personal expenses in addition to the $500 a month, that's a pretty sweet deal.
Instead of asking for more money for yourself, that money can be spent on additional aide hours to give you some respite time.