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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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According to your profile your husband is only 57 years old. That's pretty young. He could easily live another 40 years, so it's best you get his care figured out now, or it will kill you before he will die. Why is it that he can't do things for himself? Is it because he just isn't trying and has gotten used to you doing everything for him, or is it because he truly can't do for himself any longer? I know you say in your profile that he's had a stroke. If he's that incapacitated from the stroke then you probably need to be looking into placing him in the appropriate facility. And if he's just being lazy or has gotten used to you doing everything for him, then just stop doing it all for him. Eventually if he wants something bad enough he will figure out how to get it for himself. My husband had a massive stroke at the age of 48, which left him unable to walk, talk, read, write, and paralyzed on his right side. After many months of physical therapy, occupational therapy and speech therapy, he was able to learn how to walk again with the help of a brace on his right leg, talk in short simple words and sentences, but never regained use of his right arm/hand and never could read or write again, and always had trouble comprehending the spoken word which got worse as he got older. But even with all that my husband took care of himself as far as showering, and dressing, and would even like to piddle putz out in the yard filling the birdbath and feeders. I never babied him, and made him do what he could do, and what he couldn't I would help him with. Of course as he got older and he developed vascular dementia, I had to do a lot more and eventually he ended up completely bedridden, until he died last Sept. at the age of 72. It's important too that you're taking time away from him to do things that you enjoy every week. If that means that you hire someone to come stay with him so you can do so, then do it, as you are just as important as he is. When you are a caregiver, self care is of the utmost importance if you're going to survive this journey with him. And it may be helpful too if you saw a therapist to share your feelings and concerns with, or even find a caregivers support group that may be in your area. I know my local caregivers support group was a Godsend to me. You can Google to see if you have one in your area, and just know that most are still meeting on Zoom because of Covid. I wish you the very best getting this all figured out.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Why is it that he can't do things for himself? Is it because he just isn't trying and has gotten used to you doing everything for him, or is it because he truly can't do for himself any longer? I know you say in your profile that he's had a stroke. If he's that incapacitated from the stroke then you probably need to be looking into placing him in the appropriate facility. And if he's just being lazy or has gotten used to you doing everything for him, then just stop doing it all for him. Eventually if he wants something bad enough he will figure out how to get it for himself.
My husband had a massive stroke at the age of 48, which left him unable to walk, talk, read, write, and paralyzed on his right side. After many months of physical therapy, occupational therapy and speech therapy, he was able to learn how to walk again with the help of a brace on his right leg, talk in short simple words and sentences, but never regained use of his right arm/hand and never could read or write again, and always had trouble comprehending the spoken word which got worse as he got older. But even with all that my husband took care of himself as far as showering, and dressing, and would even like to piddle putz out in the yard filling the birdbath and feeders.
I never babied him, and made him do what he could do, and what he couldn't I would help him with. Of course as he got older and he developed vascular dementia, I had to do a lot more and eventually he ended up completely bedridden, until he died last Sept. at the age of 72.
It's important too that you're taking time away from him to do things that you enjoy every week. If that means that you hire someone to come stay with him so you can do so, then do it, as you are just as important as he is. When you are a caregiver, self care is of the utmost importance if you're going to survive this journey with him.
And it may be helpful too if you saw a therapist to share your feelings and concerns with, or even find a caregivers support group that may be in your area. I know my local caregivers support group was a Godsend to me. You can Google to see if you have one in your area, and just know that most are still meeting on Zoom because of Covid.
I wish you the very best getting this all figured out.