The worst part is that he doesn't think his pants smell, so he will wear them for several days. He lives alone and still gets out on his own, so I never know if he is stinky or not. My sisters and I tell him all the time to put fresh pants and underwear everyday, but he doesn't listen. I don't know anyone else that has this problem.
You can Thank goodness that is all he is doing.
Really I know things like that bother you right now, but your dad has his established routine and friends. They are mush more influential than you and if it gets that bad, they'll tell him but in the mean time, you and your sister don't need to establish GRAY HAIR worrying about a little thing like that.
Just enjoy him as he is dear, really.
I know it's not what you wanted to hear, but I hope it helps.
It's not a few drops, its more like a puddle. Sometimes he smells like the subway.
When I said he gets out, its to the drug store or post office. He no longer sees friends and we are his social network. When he did still see friends however, they would mention to me about his problem, so as not to be impolite. He would come out of the bathroom looking like the faucet sprayed on him. He has done this in people's houses and my sisters and I always check the bathroom after he leaves to clean up the mess (sometimes he tracks the mess after him with wet footsteps).
This isn't the only issue he has, but it's one that carries a social stigma and for someone who has few social interactions, it is important, to us anyway. I know this may not seem important compared to all the other serious issues that I read about, but I see it and his other issues as the tip of the iceberg to come.
We do enjoy my dad the way he is, especially his grandchildren. But they will soon be at an age where they will think his odor is off putting and not want to be around him and I am trying to avoid that.
Thanks your insight.
If he is reasonable about it, try to convince him to sit while urinating. It requires a change in life-long habits, but if/when he does so, he will probably find that it is a much more "Satisfying" situation. He will be able to relax and get more complete emptying of the bladder, and need to go less frequently, plus make no mess.
There is also the possibility of surgery, if he is fit for it.
My mother tells me that he thinks he's young again being able to pee so good. (too much information for me)
couple squirts of Febreeze.
That's how i got mom to take a shower. couldn't get her out of the bed to wash her, and she was getting gamey. asked her if she wanted a shower and she said no and I said ok, left the room and came back, pulled back the covers and gave her sheets and nightie a couple squirts of Febreeze.
Next day when i asked her if she wanted a shower she got right out of the bed.
give 'ol dad a blast in the pants and when he wants to know why................ tell him in any direct and loving way you can. He's a guy so spell it out.
you know what they say: truth squirts.
lovbob
Bobbi, you're funny!!
Good luck!
Hap
mom would piddle on the floor and the toilet seat and if you went in there in the middle of the night you could get quite the sooprize. We adjusted right away and we would just wipe the toilet seat with tp and make sure it was dry and I ended up putting a towel around the base of the toilet and changing it out at least once a day and never going in there without shoes!! At least the towel kept it from being a puddle on the floor and I could wash it immediately and the rest of the floor wasn't gross.
amazing, isn't it? other people would never believe what we see and do!! whizz patrol!
lovbob
Keep us posted with the results!
We did some things, overnight -- we cut out large "holes" in his pjs to make the spray ....well not hit his pants. Kinda goofy, but it helps. Look at your dad's pants and underpants, can he get a clear path for the pee to get out. Is the zipper and opening big enough to umm..get easy and quick access when he needs to pee? We changed my dad's underpants to a stretchier and looser type, seems he can thus pull it back easier to pee. We put up a HUGE sign in front of the toilet that says, "Step closer when you pee."
On another note, we seem to have solved a problem with overnight peeing. He had gotten used to using a pee jug at his bedside for overnight peeing, but lately it required mopping up in the morning, every morning. Of course, for us to do this is draining and not fun to wake up to and have as the first thing to do each morning.
Well, what we realized is that he's actually strong enough during the day to use the toilet and he's actually quite okay these days. So AFTER he goes to sleep, we put up two large signs. One right by the nightstand light, which he turns on when he wakes up to pee, and the other a slight distance as an A-board placed away from the bed. They say, "Use the toilet to pee at night!" And you know what, now he does!!! I am so happy to hear the toilet flushing at night.
What was a bit funny, was at first we put the signs out before he slept and "reminded" him. Well all this got us with protests, and "I don't need that," and signs getting put away. Now it's post sleep and nobody sweats it.
At 86, we're not really thinking about surgery, although we will occasionally think about trying some urnination-control meds. He does also have an enlarged prostate.
If we expect to go out, I will often put out a pair of Depends as his underpants. We also do a check of the toilet after he pees at a friend's place...
Been there. Done that with my husband.
He has told me he has a hard time going pee, or holding it sometimes when it comes on, so we have addressed this with his Dr., and are in the process of running test...I guess the real question I had is how do I handle the cleanlinesss issue, and is this common? (and he has had a stroke in the last 6 months)