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LinArce My aunt, 93 dementia, does this. She is in her chair and when I walk past her into the kitchen “where are you going” or if I am in the kitchen “what are you doing”. I just answer and keep on trucking. I think she’s lonely. She wants everyone to sit with her which I do but only when I want to. I don’t live with her so I can imagine if I did how hard that would be. I do enjoy visiting with her and will sit with her for a couple of hours but she wants me to look at her and not tv or mail or my phone. If I need to look at my phone I’ll say “let’s see what niece is up to”. “Oh just look at how cute her grands are!” In other words include her in my life. When I first started taking care of her finances or medical issues, I would stay over a few days at a time. If I went out she would want to know where I was going. I resented her asking and would be very vague in my replies. She learned that wasn’t going to work with me and began to say, “take your time, be careful”. I think it’s harder when it’s your mom. My niece, who lives near by, says that every time she walks past her she wants niece to greet aunt as if it’s the first time she has seen her. Niece keeps her cameras in order so she’s focused on her phone to see if the cameras are working, walking back and forth. “Oh hello aunt. How are you today”. 4 or 5 times in an hour or less. “What’s your hurry” aunt will ask. Mumble mumble mumble niece will say. Lol Ain’t it Grand! 😱
I can’t speak to the dementia because my mom doesn’t have any issues with that. Has she always been inquisitive about your coming and going or is this relatively new?
My mother was always nosey so her being inquisitive didn’t surprise me when I cared for her. It was a monitoring in a sense so she could try to control or manipulate.
That was my situation. Your situation is entirely different. Who knows why? Maybe it’s because she is trying to hold on or remember an exact moment. Maybe it’s her way of trying to be involved in your life. Others with experience with dementia can offer more help.
It might be less annoying for you if you say automatically where you have been. ‘Just been to check the post’ or ‘went to wash my hands’ or ‘timer sounded on the washing machine cycle’. It could be an easy habit that helps both of you - less annoying for you, more sharing for her. Then she can imagine what's going on, even if she can't see.
My mother is always asking where is my sig other if she doesn't see him. I tell her where he is, which he is some where in the house, but I see the relieved that he is close by!
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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My aunt, 93 dementia, does this. She is in her chair and when I walk past her into the kitchen “where are you going” or if I am in the kitchen “what are you doing”. I just answer and keep on trucking.
I think she’s lonely. She wants everyone to sit with her which I do but only when I want to. I don’t live with her so I can imagine if I did how hard that would be. I do enjoy visiting with her and will sit with her for a couple of hours but she wants me to look at her and not tv or mail or my phone. If I need to look at my phone I’ll say “let’s see what niece is up to”. “Oh just look at how cute her grands are!” In other words include her in my life.
When I first started taking care of her finances or medical issues, I would stay over a few days at a time. If I went out she would want to know where I was going. I resented her asking and would be very vague in my replies. She learned that wasn’t going to work with me and began to say, “take your time, be careful”.
I think it’s harder when it’s your mom.
My niece, who lives near by, says that every time she walks past her she wants niece to greet aunt as if it’s the first time she has seen her. Niece keeps her cameras in order so she’s focused on her phone to see if the cameras are working, walking back and forth. “Oh hello aunt. How are you today”. 4 or 5 times in an hour or less.
“What’s your hurry” aunt will ask. Mumble mumble mumble niece will say. Lol
Ain’t it Grand! 😱
My mother was always nosey so her being inquisitive didn’t surprise me when I cared for her. It was a monitoring in a sense so she could try to control or manipulate.
That was my situation. Your situation is entirely different. Who knows why? Maybe it’s because she is trying to hold on or remember an exact moment. Maybe it’s her way of trying to be involved in your life. Others with experience with dementia can offer more help.
Best wishes to you.
My mother is always asking where is my sig other if she doesn't see him. I tell her where he is, which he is some where in the house, but I see the relieved that he is close by!