After being a full time caregiver to my mother in law for 8 years she has moved into a care home with her daughter living nearby. After 6 months Daughter now wants to move but is reluctant to be involved with her care. We need to discuss this with two daughters & son as I am unable to take on the full time care again but am unsure how to do it. Any suggestions will be gratefully received.
A little more extreme, but possible, is a family mediator. Whatever route you go, a family meeting to discuss this issue is wise. If the daughter who wants to move is reluctant to be in on the planning, she may feel guilty for wanting to move. Try to keep attitudes in check and stress that the whole idea is about MOM, not anyone else. Again, I'd suggest a third party to help, since that makes it less "family" and more official, so people will be on their best behavior (hopefully).
Good luck,
Carol
Carol